Im a pastors daughter and im getting married but people want me to have a dance what should i do?

Question

i grew up in a baptist christian home and i was tought that dancing was always a thing of the world! my fieances parents are catholic and they are putting pressure to have a dance :( i think it would be fun but i wouldnt be comforable being that other pastors and friends i grew up with in church would look down on that ! i always want to stand up for the lord and my testomony but i dont know if thats really letting him down if there is no bad words or nasty music going on ...only love songs related to the wedding theme....when me and my love are alone we dance for fun and romance......what you think would it still be the wrong thing to do??

Answer 1

Are you serious? This of all things is straining your wedding day?
You are getting married to a man you love and feel is a good man. Dancing is a minor detail to a long marriage. Let the music play, if your guests want to dance, let them. Don't let anyone pressure you into something you wouldn't feel comfortable doing. The decision is ultimately up to you and your fiance.
As far as "letting the lord down"... Um don't worry about it. Your commitment to your vows are far more important than what music is playing at your wedding. Talent to entertain is god-given. Music artists have that talent and it should be celebrated.

Answer 2

The problem is not the dance, the problem is the wrong teachings and beliefs. King David danced. Moses danced after the crossing of the Red Sea. Psalms says to "Praise him in the dance!" Dancing can be vulgar or it can be romantic and pleasing. It is a form of exercise. Music is not "worldly" it is the words. Dancing is not worldly either, it is the words of the songs and the intentions of the dancers. As Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery (notice no man was brought with her but SHE was in adultery) "Let the person without sin cast the first stone!" Read John 3:17! If Jesus was sent here not to condemn the world, what right do so called Christians have condemning you for celebrating what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life?

Have the dance and enjoy yourself.

Answer 3

Your marriage is already in deep trouble and it hasn't even happened yet! Let's see - you claim to follow Christ's path, right? You must have read the Bible at some point, right? You realize that Jesus attended many a wedding, right? You realize He was a Jew and that Jewish weddings were and are accompanied by a great deal of dancing? Now tell me - how dare you insult Jesus by looking down your sanctimonious nose at dancing???
Marriage is a thing of the world, sex is a thing of the world, eating and drinking are things of the world and so is breathing. If your church frowns on "things of the world", why haven't all the members starved to death long ago? Either that, or they're the epitome of hypocrisy.
"Bad words or nasty music"? What in heaven's name is that? I'll tell you what it is - it's a demented attitude. Sorry, but your marriage is cursed. If it even happens, it will soon end in bitterness, anger and recriminations - especially if you've got the attitude that God is the most important man in your life. You're going to wind up a bitter, lonely old woman!

Answer 4

Honey, I grew up in a really religious home too, and it was "taboo" to dance as well, because it was considered "worldly". Let me tell you something. Now that I'm all grown up, I think that's simply RIDICULOUS, if the music is not offensive. Do you need anyone to tell you when you're doing wrong, or do you feel it in your spirit right away? Well, there you go then. We spend too much time listening to others than following our OWN convictions. The dove inside you won't steer you wrong. And as for other people looking down on you...."Let him without fault cast the first stone". No one can say they have NEVER done anything wrong. In this case, I don't think you're doing a thing wrong. It's a once in a lifetime thing. But if you want, have two different receptions. One "Catholic" one to appease one side of the family, and one "reserved" one for yours, and invite people to the appropriate reception. Besides, you're marrying "unequally yoked", so you already got a strike against you, Girl! LOL
Do what's right in your heart and your own conviction, and don't let other people JUDGE you. The fact that they tell us all kinds of "don't do"s, and hardly any "do"s, should tell you something. Do you really think God would want to send you to Hell for having a little dance to love songs? There ya go.

Answer 5

Okay I am a bit confused here. I was also raised as a baptist. I have never heard that danceing was wrong. Maybe the choice of your music should be limited for the church... but you haveing fun has nothing do to with your faith. It's your wedding, do what you want and have fun.

Answer 6

First of all you need to learn to use Upper Case for titles...Baptist and Catholic for example...they are PROPER names and should be shown respect. Secondly I think you should also learn to spell It's Fiance' not fieance whatever that is.
Thirdly you'd better start thinking about your relgious differences and not just over the dance. There are so many differences between Baptist and Catholic. Although YOUR religion tells YOU not to dance HIS religion doesn't and from the sound of your post you don't seem to respect HIS religion and yet expect him and his family to respect YOUR'S. Frankly with your attitude I think the wrong thing to do would be for you to marry this guy. You don't respect his family's religion and therefore you don't respect him or his family.

Answer 7

Did you know that it is bibilical to dance for the Lord ....... king David did and the Psalmist encourages us to do it.

So if you are dancing to celebrate `the marriage that God has given you', sister by all means pse dance !

What we do or behave should be according to His Word ....... not by the rules made by man or the practises of churches ......

We are no longer under the yoke of the law but are under His grace ! Praise the Lord.

I encourage you to have a personal relationship with God ..... go to Him in prayer consistently and read His word. When you have a close walk with Him, His power will be manifested in you.

Do have a wonderful wedding ! cause Marriage was created by God for men. Lets celebrate !

Answer 8

It's your wedding day. Discuss it with your fiance and do what is comfortable for YOU. You do NOT want to be uncomfortable or worry about what is going on around you. You want it to be a happy positively memorable day for you and your partner.
How do your parents feel about this? Who is paying for this party? All these things have an impact.
Don't feel pressured to do something that does not feel right to you.
ALL my family and friends had a dance. But I didn't. I just didn't want my parents to have that extra expense. So we were married at 11 AM, had a luncheon and a cocktail thingy, and it was done by 5 PM. Many of my parents friends thought it was "weird" but then... even years later, I've been told my wedding party was one of the best parties they'd ever been to. Do what feels right for you.

Answer 9

I would have a dance there is nothing wrong with it.
Knowing that some not all Baptist frown but there are Baptist the do dance at weddings. some Baptist drink and smoke as well.
I've attended quite few baptist weddings and they did have dancing.
Some folks Just have to find themselves and look at their life and what they do, where other ppl will frown about.

Answer 10

What is a wedding without dancing what else would you do stand around talking looking at each other. Forget about what is right or wrong for one day let your hair down and have fun.