2007-09-24 15:08:42 · 21 answers · asked by notamonkey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All I will say is,"Now we know why you are separated(divorced)!!!!!" Your an IDIOT,A MORON,a DOLT,a BRAINLESS USELESS EXCUSE FOR A HUMAN BEING,and a PRIME EXAMPLE OF WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD!!!!!!!! JUST BECAUSE YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE ARE NOT TOGETHER ANYMORE.DOES NOT EXCUSE YOU FROM BEING WITH YOUR CHILDREN EVERY MOMENT YOU CAN!!!!!!
2007-09-24 15:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by david b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling! Maybe you just need someone to talk to. The counselor can give you advise on the best way to approach your husband and discuss your feelings. It sounds to me like you still love your husband your just upset that he doesn't give you any attention. Which is completely understandable! If you listen to anything I have to say please let it be this. STOP talking to the ex boyfriend. That will only cloud your judgment and you do not want to make a decision this important on the fact that an old flame as peeked your interest. Also remind yourself why he is an old flame. Maybe you plan an evening out. Or an evening in if you can't get a sitter. Put kids to bed and fix a nice dinner and rent a movie. Give your husband a few days notice so that he doesn't blow you off for the video games. Also the therapist can help you communicate with your husband on how to set boundaries with the video games if that is a problem between the two of you. You owe it to yourself, your husband, your marriage and your children to do everything possible to make it work. Marriage is not easy but can be very rewarding if you put the work required into it! The grass is never greener. Don't do something you may regret in the future! Also if you do everything possible to fix this and it doesn't work then you know for certain that you can leave this marriage and never wonder if there was something you could of done to fix it and you will have great respect for yourself for giving it your all!!! I wish you the best of luck!!!!
2016-05-17 23:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...the kids will tell dad and you might lose them for good. This is quality time with them and you should find a man that will include your kids if you want to go out on a date...but your just seperated and it isn't going to look to good...if you care....which i believe you do care about your reputation.Your kids may be old enough to build resentment. So just lay low and have your date at the house...but only if the guy really is accepting of your children.
No...don't get a babysitter.Ever! Until you find the next Mr. Right and he has tickets to an expensive gala....then you can get a sitter......
2007-09-24 16:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only have the kids every other weekend, no you should not get a babysitter. If this person is truly into you, they can wait until you have the time to devote to them. Go on a weekend or night the kids are not at your house.
2007-09-24 15:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by shes_marie77 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, that is the only time that you have with your kids, they need to know that you are still there for them after all of the changes that they are going through, you can go out on the weekends that you don't have them. Make your time with them special, hell take them out on a date they will think it's great, even if it's to mcdonalds or to a playground it won't matter to them because they are with you not a babysitter!
2007-09-24 16:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are recently separated you should take a break and not date at all. Focus on your children. Figure out why the marriage went wrong. Figure out how you screwed up and why you are not going to make the same mistake again.
Children need routine and stability. If you feel you must date, then do it when you don't have your kids. Keep them company. They didn't ask to be born, they didn't ask for their parents to divorce. You now must sacrifice some of your needs to take care of theirs.
2007-09-24 15:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by teritaur 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why not just go out on the weekends you don't have your kids? I know your life doesn't stop aver divorce, but spending time with your children during this recent seperation would be nice.
2007-09-24 15:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um - so why can't ya go out on a date on the weekends you don't have the kids? Youse can get plenty of nookie without treating your kids like sh*t....on second thought, if you could even contemplate doing that to your kids, you're a full of sh*t low-life a55hole...
2007-09-24 17:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not!! Dont you look forward to spending time with your kids since I assume they don't stay with you? Dont you miss them? Don't you want to do plenty things with them?
You can always date on days when your kids are not around right?
gosh! Do your duty as a parent properly!
2007-09-24 19:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? If you only get your kids every other weekend, don't you think you oughtta spend it with them? Also, exposing them to new people is really detrimental at this point. Think about your kids and not about yourself and save your dates for your kidless nights!
2007-09-24 15:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋