restrain order?

Question

Can I put a restrain order on someone who is doing a lot of damages to my property but I cant prove it is him?
He painted /scratched my car.
He cut my daughter’s bike tires.
He cut one of our family friends car tires with a knife and 2 of my neighbors sow the car that looks like his car.
He parked last week his car in the middle of the night in front of my house and turned up the music loud so my husband had to go out and talk to him.
He is passing to our street every night driving slow and looking for her.
Once he stopped his car because my daughter was outside talking to some friends and he start talking to her.
He is leaving notes to my daughter when her window is open.
Today he jumped over the fans in the Scholl where my daughter is a student .
It is been a year since she does not want to see him .
Every single action is more aggressive then the last one.
What I could do .
Thank you

Answer 1

Get a video camera and tape this guy doing his thing. It can be set up as a motion-activated device. Then have a restraining order taken out against him. This guy sounds like he might be potentially dangerous.

Answer 2

What you are describing here is a very dangerous situation. Because like you mentioned, every time he does something new is more aggressive than the time before. Why haven't you gone to the court and request a restraining order against him. This kid needs help, but that is not your problem, your problem is to protect your daughter and family. Don't wait another minute, go to the court and do it. He is not stable, and he could become even more dangerous than you ever imagine. At least with the restraining order, you can have the cops arrest him if he is near your property. You should have done that a long time ago. Have you videotaped anything he has done so far? If you haven't start doing it now, but don't allow him to know you are taping him. That way you will have some kind of proof about the fact that he is stocking your daughter. Be careful with her, you should taker and pick her up to and from the school. I really feel bad for your situation, and I hope he makes a mistake so he can be arrested. Good luck.

Answer 3

Take the notes and your daughter and go to the police. Make sure you take the notes. Have her explain that she feels threatened by him, like he would do her bodily harm. Explain that in turn your family feels threatened and can't sleep at night knowing that he could be out there trying to break into your cars, bother your daughter or worse yet, stalk her, because it sounds like stalking. Get the restraining order and when you go to court, take the notes and explain your fears and the judge will like uphold it and keep this guy away. You have to remember, that its just a court order, so if he does come around and it sounds like he will, be prepared to call the police immediately, get witnesses and document whatever you can, i.e. if he is parked in front of the house, video tape him with the date and time stamp showing on the tape. Take photos, whatever you need to do. Set up some type of security on your home. Get a dog. Do something, but don't let this continue.

Answer 4

This is serious!

Start to make a thorough diary, detailing everything, including how you know he has no alibi etc (he will try to proof alibis, so write down how you can break open any alibis).

Set up a camera on a tripod looking out your window at the street - ready to go. whenever you think he is there, hit record. and an additional one facing your daughter's window.

Get a surveillance company to follow him and take video/photo evidence as proof.

Tell the police about every incident. even if you have no proof it was him. at least tell them each time, so there is a history of you calling them. it builds a case.

Be sure to advise the police that your daughter and you are SCARED. There are laws to prevent harassment.

You must insist the police take this seriously. Crazy people like this end up doing evil things, and sometimes people get killed.

as it has been a whole year, my God you must act quickly to get the police involved and protecting you. this guy is a loose cannon now! i did hear a case similar and I'm sorry to frighten you but the guy ended up killing her and the new boyfriend.

fill in the diary, backdate to when it all began. get protection. and one more thing - put a security screen on the window of your daughter's room, that is asking for trouble not having her room protected.

best of luck!!

Answer 5

If he is doing the things you say, there are other witnesses - thus adequate proof he is doing what you say. Ask your neighbors to sign statements you can take to the police. Buy or borrow a video camera and record what he is doing. You might also consider installing a camera on your property to record his actions. You might convince the local police to stake out your house in an unmarked car. You must report this ASAP. There have been too many similar cases where the girl ends up dead because no one took the threat seriously. He is definitely escalating his behavior - which is a pattern with stalkers. This guy is a real sicko!

Answer 6

yes you should take a restrain order out on him that way if he comes with in so many feet of the one who took out the order he goes to jail i think it might be 100 feet but it might be more i do not know but the law can tell you. that way if he comes by your house for any reason you can have him arrested that way all your husband has to do is call the cops when the dude comes around and will not have to waste his time with that guy.besides if the guy is starting to get more persistent it might get dangerose for you or your family so just let the cops get him so i would go ahead and get that restrain order ok good luck

Answer 7

Take him to court, because by the sounds of it, an AVO (Apprehensive Violence Order) wont do the trick, but do get one none the less. If you do follow suit with a law suit, get lots of proof first, and get a lawyer to help you.

If somebody told you not to put your hand into the cookie jar, and eat the biscuit, but there's nothing physically stopping you, what will? An angry letter or a few words wont.

Move states.

Teach your daughter self-defence

Get security camera's first aswell,and prove its him.

Your meant to report these kind of things to the police you know.

Answer 8

YES YOU CAN! Call the cops every time you see him near your house! Been there done that! Per your note, others have seen him! Make a report each & everytime! Starting NOW. This is dangerous business. Don't let him get away with it!

Answer 9

Tell the police what is going on. Check into getting a restraining order and then follow it.

Answer 10

get one
but know this
a piece of paper will not hold back a guy who breaks the law
so he will not respect he order
if anything it usually angers him more and he generally escalates what he does
so a self defense is usually the best offense
consider getting a gun
and if you can get a CWP and carry it on yourself