I want a divorce?

Question

I just had a big talk with my wife. I told her I love her but not in love with her. I told her everything but divorce. How do I tell her I want a divorce?

Answer 1

Sounds kind of crazy to want a divorce from a woman you love. Talk with people that have been married a long time. Most of them will say what you did. I love them but am not in love with them. As time goes by that new, infatuation love dimenishes but the love you have for them continues to grow stronger. Why not try to work on your marriage with your wife, whom you love. That is after all what you promised her when you married her.

Answer 2

She's already hurting from the "I love you, but not in love with you speech", and is thinking to herself what you mean by that and what's next. If you don't share how you feel, she will be asking, and probably some questions you aren't prepared to answer. Be honest, if you care about her at all get off the computer and talk to her. Be ready to answer all her questions, "Is there someone else?", "What did I do?" "Can we work this out". You need to make sure divorce is what you want, once you bring up those words, they can't be taken back. Be sympathetic to her needs, it sounds to me like you will be breaking her heart.

Answer 3

A guy I know got a divorce when he was in his twenties with three kids. Hes spent his whole life searching for someone half as great as her. Hes 55 years old now and has nothing. No one to love, no place to live, NOTHING. You married her for a reason try to remember what it was. Every relationship is rocky. Think about what it is that you love about her, all the good times you have had, all the funny moments, all the times that she showed you she loved you. I'm sure you can work things out.

Answer 4

If you told her everything else but that, something inside of your heart is stopping you from doing this. Instead of ignoring and trying to find some way to tell her, listen to it. You just might be going in the wrong direction and it might be a big mistake. Try, in your marriage, all the way around, until you can't think of anything more to do, to make it work. It should be working out before you get to that point.

Answer 5

Probably should have talked about it when you were having your talk. You should talk to her about it, let her know what you are unhappy with and see if there is anything that you can do to fall back in love with her. If you think that you can work it out, maybe try a seperation, where you live apart for a little while, and see if that works. Otherwise you will need to have the divorce talk with her and hopefully you can do it amicabily.

Answer 6

How old are you? I love you but I'm not IN love with you?? Come on! That is SO over used! What are you in love with then? You told her that you weren't IN love with her, why did you just man up and tell her you want a divorce. I mean really, if you aren't in love with her, why stick around?

Answer 7

just say it your not being fair to her or yourself if you stay i hate when people say work it out... if it was working divorce wouldn't be an issue or a thought. kids or no kids if your not happy you will not be able to make your kids happy bec children are way smarter than we think. end it now before you keep lying to yourself and your wife.

Answer 8

It took me 18 yrs. to say it. Finally one evening he was watching tv and I was sitting at my computer desk in the same room, and I just turned around and out of nowhere, I said "I want a divorce". Good luck.

Answer 9

if my husband told me all that, a divorce would be first thing out of my mouth...she probably already has a clue, maybe she is in denial..try talking about this again with her

Answer 10

I think by beating around the bush you might have already let her know but you should come out and make it clear. Dont sugar coat something like that you just make it worse.