Would you marry a person if you two were not able to live at the same residence ??

Question

I know this sounds strange, but would you get married ( for religious reasons) knowing that you and your new spouse had to live in seperates homes for about a year.... because of family and financial issues ??
assuming though that you still spent time with each other, like you did while dating

I should have said "for love and religious beliefs"

Answer 1

It all depends on what you want. If religion is important to you than yes. If its not then maybe wait. I know that my husband and I didn't have a penny when we got married because we were both still in college but I loved him so much and saying that he was my boyfriend just didn't express it enough. So when he proposed I was really happy. But, he decided to go to college three hours away from where we currently lived, so one month after we got married he moved and I stayed to finish my schooling. We see each other on weekend and he always drives here because this is home. We talk every night and everymorning we wake each other up with a phone call. This has been going on for two years and at christmas I can't wait because we'll once again get to live together all the time.

Answer 2

Let me start off by saying that I am NOT a biblical scholar by any means. However, does it not say in the bible that when a man marries, he should no longer cleave to his mother ? In other words, when the two of marry, it is time to leave the family behind to start a new life TOGETHER. If there are financial reasons why the two of you can't marry now, then you need to wait until your finances improve. You speak of " Getting married for religious reasons". What religious reasons are you referring to ? Sexual ? Are you pregnant ? Have you truly evaluated your situation weighing both the pros and the cons ? Why don't you get married for love..................true love and nothing else. You did not mention that at all. Remember love conquers all. But you know what's sad.................You already know the answer to your question. You just want/need to hear it from someone else. So, allow me to be the one to tell you. Clearly, you are NOT ready to get married. Reasons: One: You already said that there are financial issues. Show me a marriage that has survived from a lack of finances and I will show you two liers. (That is a marriage killer right there.) Your marriage will start off stressful. You and he will be worried about the bills being paid to time. Soon you'll be arguing every other day. Soon thereafter the two of you will began to hate being around each other. I am telling you, financial problems in a marriage is a killer. ( If you are going to do this, you and your spouse should begin making preparations to go on t.v's divorce court.) Second, you are talking about living in separate houses. If you are going to do that , what is the point in getting married ? Where and when will you have true privacy ? If you are a screamer then your parents ( or his) are going to get an earful. You need to re-evaluate your situation. Marry for love and nothing else and everything will work itself out. If I were you, I would wait until things gel a little bit before tying the knot. If it is meant to be, you and your true love will continue to be there for each other until the time is right. Good Luck.

Answer 3

If there was some pressing reason why I particularly had to get married now and not wait a year, then sure. But barring a situation like that, I am not sure what the point would be of getting married now if you can't live together--the marriage license itself as a piece of paper is fairly meaningless, it's starting a home, a life, and maybe a family together that's what marriage is really all about.

Answer 4

No I would never settle for that for any reason. The first year of marriage is very important in the two of you living together as husband and wife and this is your true beginning of a bonding period.This is adjustment time and having close sexual intimacy together as a married couple and having your privacy to mature in. I would not get married and live separately and I would wait untill the time was right that the two of us could be together in the right way.

Answer 5

my husband and i have been married for 19 years and he is a truck driver and is gone from home 5 1/2 days a week. if we lived together 7 days a week i don't think we would have lasted this long. also, military families live apart alot so it can be done. but you say "religious reasons", I hope there is love involved, strong love, because without it, you will never last.

Answer 6

Why not wait until you can both live together? Marage is not only the I love you's it's the day by day partnership. Financial issues
are a big part of partnership, solve those First. NO, I wouldn't Marry
for just religious reasons!

Answer 7

I'm not sure I understand the question, but if you mean live separately while married because of financial reasons, I would say no. I would wait until we were financially stable enough to be a family.

Answer 8

I had a friend who did this, and did it for about 2 to 3 years, they live together now and it works just fine. They did spend time together when they were living apart. They're doing good financially on top of it. It's all about what you both are comfortable with.

Answer 9

If you are living apart for financial reasons, then maybe you should just hold off on marriage for a while. Marriage is certainly a spiritual connection. But the number one reason for marriages not succeeding is money problems. If you start your marriage in a situation of financial stress, then you're not giving yourselves much of a chance. Just put it off for a while until this is sorted out.

Answer 10

No, I would wait until all of the other issues had been sorted out before getting married......Adjusting to married life takes time which financial issues, family difficulties etc. could make even more difficult....