i cant forgive him this past thursday i almosted kissed someone at work and he wants me to transfer i dont want to we arent together really i already told him i cant be with him but he wont leave we have to 2 kids and i dont know what to do
2007-09-24 14:18:03 · 9 answers · asked by kaylaz1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he hasnt cheated since hat was the first time but i tried to forgive him but when this guy almosted kissed me i wanted him to except for the fact that he is married we couldnt kiss we talked and agreed it wont happen again because even though they cheated on us we wouldnt do it to them
2007-09-24 14:29:16 · update #1
he already knows about co worker thats why he wants the transfer and i have tried for a year and i dont know anymore about the whole thing i know i wont do anything with co worker and he confused me i am still lost
2007-09-24 15:01:32 · update #2
You hurt your self the most by not forgiving. Sins unforgiven turn into resentments. Resentments make the heart sour.You committing the same sin your husband did, will only make things worse.
For the sake of your children forgive him, especially if he has been good since. Decide to forgive him in your mind first and pray for him and the forgiveness will work it's way down to your heart and you can find joy again. Let it go. Keep your eyes open, but let the sins of the past go.
If you just can't get past it, then get a divorce and forgive him anyway. God says to forgive everyone, everything so that we might be forgiven our own sins. Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 in the Holy Bible so you will know what love truly is. You have enough love to forgive him and bring your family back together. I hope you will try.
2007-09-24 14:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT being honest with yourself. You CLEARLY are interested in the whole extra-marital scene.
FORGIVE your husband NOW and decide to put ALL your effort into your marriage. Tell your husband, if you can , about your feelings for another person, and that you want to try forgiveness together for say 3 months. Then review that situation together.
At the end of your trial period you should be able to know if you want to continue together as a couple, split, or stay together but with certain freedoms to do as you might wish.
Both directions take guts!
2007-09-24 14:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by bak2deefuture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel your marriage is over, seek legal advice immediately with a view to getting a divorce on the grounds of your husbands adultery.......
DO NOT get involved with anyone else, either at work or elsewhere, until you have ended your marriage....Apart from any other consideration, should you decide to divorce your husband on grounds of adultery, your own behaviour needs to be impeccable!!
Allow yourself time to heal from the hurt your husband has inflicted on you emotionally before embarking on another relationship.
2007-09-24 14:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling together and alone. If you even got to the point of almost kissing you are as bad as your husband
2007-09-24 17:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live in a "married household" as roomates. It's not going to work....especially with kids in the picture. You should probably straighten out what's happening at home before you venture out though.....
2007-09-24 14:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its a sad fact but the saying is true once a cheater always a cheater a marriage cant last without trust. If you cant forgive him you cant trust him.
2007-09-24 14:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am glad to hear you will not cheat that is good for you...if you and your husband are not working out then contact a lawyer
2007-09-24 14:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on you baby he will do it again plx believe it
2007-09-24 14:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by tatiana m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap him in his face and say ...
"FROM NOW ON, I'M RUNNING THIS PLACE!"
2007-09-24 14:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋