Why is fairy tale type love not possible? Please Read on ...?

Question

We as humans define our world by our beliefs and conceptions. If we believe the world if flat and the sun revolves around us, then it does, it will not matter what the truth is to us it will be as we believe. So if this is the case why then have we convinced ourselves that a fairy tale type (not mirror but type) love is impossible?

The fairy tales written down, not our modern sanitised children’s versions but originals, were based on the oral tradition of the previous generations, in effect on the legends of the generations that came before. All legends contain a grain of truth, at least one single fact that the legend is based on with the rest being an attempt to explain this fact. All creation myths are built on this, the fact - something exists, the legend - trying the explain why. All legends have some form of truth to them, a basic story line fleshed out with extraordinary things to make sure it is remembered. A fairy tale is based on a legend, in effect it is a legend.

So why then is it that we (or at least most) believe, if all legends have some truth and most fairy tales are legends, that it is impossible to have a fairy tale type love in reality? What is it about ourselves, as adults in this world, that makes us so cynical and jaded that we believe that it is impossible?

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Is there anyway to reverse this cynicism and ‘jading’?

Please explain your answers.

Thanks.

Please note this question was first asked in philosophy. Please asnswer along the lines of the interaction of fairy tales with our society.

Thanks.

Answer 1

There is "Fairy Tale" type love. It cannot remain in a fairy tale state as long as we live because we let ourselves get bogged down in realities of the drudgery of day to day life. Glimmers of the transcendent romantic love remain to us, if we are open to it.

Besides, what guy has a castle to take his girl home to forever? Most young males haven't set out on much of a quest. Young women, while they maybe looking for the perfect guy, aren't ready to be swept away from everything they have known to to be taken to a perfect place, no matter what they think or say. There isn't enough trust. That sort of love does exist, but how many of us would even know it when it's perfume enrobed us?

Answer 2

i dont thing you are right at all. facts play an important part in our lives, and not everyone is oblivious to the truth. even if i believed that the world was flat and someone prooved me otherwise i would change my mind, just like we do with a lot of things out there.

fairy tale love is IMPOSSIBLE, because life is about obsticals and trying times and attitutes and other peoples behaviour that sometimes we cant explain and cant control, its too unpredictable to be too good. i am married to someone i love dearly but its not a fairy tale, things dont always work out for the better. Some form of truth --- is a key here, its some but not all--- fairy tales are made simple, much less complex then real life. I dont think im cynical at all but i am realisitc enough to know that it takes a lot of work and patience to even be in love with someone. i think reality is what you are forgetting here.

Answer 3

Experience. Fairy tales end at the point where "real love" starts. Snow White and the prince marry and ride off, but reality sets in when you have to pay bills, and clean up after each other; add a child or two and the "fairy tale" loses its magic.

Honestly, my marriage is good but has problems (mostly due to me) and it is requires a fair amount of work and compromise to make it work. There is a great deal of love and satisfaction in making it work.

Answer 4

Because a fairy tale is just that - in a make believe world and the characters are perfect we don't see their flaws. In real life you have true love that is an unconditional love but after the "honeymoon" period when you live with someone you realize that this person is only human they have flaws just like you do. That is not to say that you can't find true love its just not like in a fairy tale or movie because the settings and circumstances are unrealistic.

Answer 5

Characters in a fairy tale are flat. They have one aspect, and they don't change.
When sleeping beauty has children with prince charming, she will not be beautiful forever, and he will not always drop everything and come to her rescue. Real people have to change. In fairy tales, it just ends.

Answer 6

I believe it is possible.If the mind can conceive it, the heart can believe it, then the will will achieve it! *repeat 1 million times-think of a happy place* I believe that destiny will lead Jack Sparrow to me.he'll line up peanut shells on the floor to spell I ♥ You and serenade me with a dance & song as I gaze at him with adoring eyes;) I'll settle for a twin pirate though.

They aren't necessarily jaded.Maybe dreamers or perfectionist, who want what they seemingly cannot have.Some people are realist, others are idealist and those who believe in fairytales:romanticist.

Answer 7

ha i have wished and literally dreamed of fairy tale love not that im quite old enough to have my first love i try to imagine that it will happen but then i disturb my dreams by remembering that it can never happen i have never wanted real love i have wanted a love with complication tho like the kind that you have to suffer through to get to the end but the struggles i imagine are not real they cant exist i have watched and read books and imagined what it would be like in that universe and wanted it sooo bad...

Answer 8

Princess Diana had that kind of fairy tale story although it ended so tragically.

Answer 9

In the original, "unsanitized" version of Rapunzel, the witch knew the prince had been visiting because Rapunzel was pregnant.

Answer 10

Taj Mahal and Casa Loma prove you wrong.
Fairy tale love does exist. I hope you can find it and make it grow with time.