OK...well I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 2 and a half years and I love him sooooo much! But last night I made such a bad mistake...We got in a little fight and I was pissed off at him so I went over to my friends house and there were these guys there and one of them was pretty hott and he was coming on to me and lets just say i didn't push him away if you know what i mean...we hooked up but it honestly didn't mean anything...I'm so scared and ashamed to tell my boyfriend even though he was so rude to me last night (he called me a really rude name and a lot of other stuff) so basicly I just did this out of anger to make him jealous...but I still love him a lot and he called and apologized to me today...and I know I need to tell him but I don't want him to break up with me...I so scared....I'm basicly in tears! Help!
2007-09-24 13:37:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You don't know what he did to me! He made me sooo bad and he really hurt me (not physically) but I was sooo pissed off...Now I regret it bigtime...He is the love of my life and I don't know what I would do with out him...Hopefully he understands and will give me a second chance...I still don't know if i'm going to tell him but I would feel so gulity everytime I looked him in the eye!
2007-09-24 13:47:26 · update #1
You love him so much that whatever argument or fight that the two of you had resulted in your hook up a few hours earlier? Um, whatever names he called you and later apologized for, he didn't hook up with some hot girl, did he?
Imagine if the roles were reversed, would you throw your arms around him and forgive him? You were angry, so be it, he called you rude names, that was wrong, he later apologized to make it right, hopefully, he won't do it again.
He took back and can change what he said, can you take back what you did? Your name says PSU so I'm assuming you're at a college. Well, things, events and people have a way of making the rounds at campus. Better you do it before he hears it through others.
You took a chance of losing him when you hooked up with the other guy, he apologized, if you really loved him, you would tell him what and why and hope like hell he can forgive you.
2007-09-24 14:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you made a mistake. We ALL screw up some times. We all just have to learn from our f-ups and move on.
Normally I say honesty is the best policy. But telling your BF will just hurt him, and being honest would just make YOU feel better by helping you with your guilt. There's no point in hurting the guy.
Cut him some slack about being mean to you the other night, see if you two can work it out. If he's ALWAYS mean to you, move on, but EVERYONE has bad days from time to time.
Good luck!
2007-09-25 12:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why people invented lying.
Don't lie.
If he really loved you he will get even MORE angry than in a normal relationship. You "DID" the crime, you have to do the time. Don't feed around the bush. Say "I made the biggest mistake of my life and I want forgiveness." Now he'll feel hurt and betrayed, but do not make it about him. Don't say its all his fault. you should say "I felt hurt after last night and i did something really stupid". He might either be compassionate or he might be deathly furious. But if he isn't mad I think something is wrong personally...but that's your opionion. He might even break up with you, give him time. Show you love and support him and don't give up.
2007-09-24 13:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Josh (Trust the universe?) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen answers by you before to other questions, you've made some really mean responses, I hope you grow out of it. It doesn't surprise me because you're extremely superficial about this guy as well, you don't deserve him. I think idiots need to date idiots, you need to find yourself an idiot, how's that for being mean? Btw, you yourself don't even look good - very average, there are so many women that look better and have a better personality than you too.
2016-05-17 22:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by anika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an argument isn't an excuse to go out and "hook up" with someone else, as you can obviously tell you are even hurt about it. In relationshops there are going to be arguments, and it's how you work through them that really tells how mature you are in a relationship. The fact that your first instinct was to go and hook up with another man isn't a good sign. You are in tears because you are ashamed, and because you are afraid your boyfriend will find out. You did it to make him jealous, yet you never wanted him to find out right?
Fess up to your boyfriend, tell him that you are sorry (not that "well you made me angry") and that you want to work through it. If he accepts that, then I hope you can make it through, if not, perhaps it's best you take some time apart.
2007-09-24 13:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing excuses cheating, two wrongs dont make a right, and you should of calmed down then spoke to your boyfriend about how much he hurt you and you guys could of sorted it out together...in my on experiences Honesty is the best Policy...I dont think you are a **** you sound young and looks like you are on the road of learning from your mistakes. Tell your boyfriend...if you love him as much as you say you do then you should be honest...wouldnt you like to know if he cheated on you?? If he finds out through the great vine sometime down the track thats gunna hurt him more...Good luck...Communication is the Key
2007-09-24 15:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by SassyCel29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do girls make a big deal out of men being "dogs" then do the same thing? Seriously, you can't think you had any right to cheat on him. He was rude, so what? You got into a fight. Im sure you weren't nice, either.
2007-09-24 15:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second chances never matter people never change. What's a whore is nothing more I'm sorry honey but just face the facts, and look the other way.
2007-09-24 15:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly don't tell him him,if you want to stay with him please don't tell because if you do he will never trust you again and things can get pretty ugly.
I have been in the same exact situation and guess what i did?
I didn't tell because if i told him we would of been over and i would never forgive myself.
That's up to you but i would just forget it.
2007-09-24 14:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. Seriously him being rude doesn't give you grounds to cheat. Not trying to be mean just being honest.
2007-09-24 13:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋