I have been married for half a year, I like my husband as he has many wonderful qualities, but I dont love him. Im not attracted to him and I feel my emotional needs not satisfied.
Then I met this guy, Im very attracted to him, we spent every weekends together for about 3 months till now, I told my husband I went out with some friends, he feels very painful when Im out. I know he loves me very much, so he tolerated for 3 months.
the fact is they dont know each other, my bf doesnt know Im already married and he now wants me to move in with him.
He is unhappy that I dont introduce him to my friends.
I sometimes feel guilty, but I dont want to leave my bf. but I dont want to hurt my husband too much either.
am I selfish? what should I do
2007-09-24 13:12:24 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow thats crazy...too late you ahve already hurt your husband because he WILL find out. And now that you have lied to your bf he isn't going to want you either. Looks like your going to end up alone. I guess thats what happens when you lie and cheat!
2007-09-24 13:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ca 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a piece of work !!!!!!You haven't been married long enough to even give being married a chance.... and you are cheating already.... you say you don't want to hurt your husband???? What do you call cheating on him??? I will refrain calling you what you deserve to be called because I'm sure you're the type of person that would report it as abuse.... YES YOU ARE EXTREMELY SELFISH.....get a divorce and let your poor husband off the hook and then move in with that loser boyfriend.... any guy that would mess around with a newlywed is a LOSER!
2007-09-24 13:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you selfish?
Are you kidding me?
Read over your story,
the answer lies right there.
Yes You Are VERY Selfish.
You are only thinking about yourself.
You are not even giving any consideration to the other 2 people that have feelings involved in this relationship.
You better hold on to your husband because no one else is going to put up with someone like you once they get to know you.
Did you ever learn to think of other people's feelings?
You deserve whatever you get !!!
2007-09-24 13:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selfish, why would you marry someone your not in love with.. You haven't been married to him that long to be cheating.. I've had a husband cheat on me and it's not fair at all. But I will tell you this, you will reap what you sow, and at the end you will be feeling his pain. Oh and not to mention, your not being fair to the boyfriend either.. Your just having your cake and eating it too.. I feel sorry for people like you.
2007-09-24 13:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision and quick what you want to do. I think you need some counseling to get to the root of the problems that you are having as far as emotional , acceptance, the need to feel love. I think the issues goes very deep and the best thing is professional help before its to late. Not for your husband or boyfriend but for yourself. Take care
2007-09-24 13:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being selfish. My best advice is to be honest with both of them as soon as possible. There is a good chance your "boyfriend" is not even going to be interested in a relationship with you after this masquerade you've put on and you can bet money your husband's heart is going to be ripped to shreds. If your husband is the great guy you say he is, then you owe it to him to come clean. Re-evaluate your marriage. You are a newlywed still and the first year of marriage is said to be the hardest. I think you need to work on your marriage and get rid of the boyfriend. You'll get tired of him eventually too and that's a bad cycle to get into. You'll be emotionally starved your whole life if you keep that up. Work on your marriage, evaluate and then decide. Good luck to you.
2007-09-24 13:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you obviously don't love your husband, do the honest thing, tell him the truth and cut him lose! Now, you also need to tell the boyfriend the truth too, and if he still wants you afterwards, you will be a lucky woman. THEN I suggest you get into counseling to work out why you are selfish and why you would cheat on your newlywed husband and your boyfriend.
2007-09-28 11:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by iamroxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very selfish. You are hurting 2 people, you don't care about either one of them just how you feel. Did you listen to your wedding vows? You made a promise to your husband and you broke it, you should feel guilty. You can't keep going on like this because someone could get hurt physically and it is going to be your all fault.
2007-09-24 13:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, don't be a slut....listen, if the tables were turned, how would you feel? You are lying to your husband, your beau and friends- is there no end to your betrayal?
Honey, if you don't want him, let him go so that he can find someone. Meanwhile, do you really think this person is going to want to really be with you, the beau when he finds out!
Sit down and suggest a separation, or possibly a honest discussion. You are cheating your friends, the beau and your husband.
QUIT the DRAMA!
2007-09-24 13:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by myteddystory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John? thats a guys name so I'm guessing your in a gay marriage and your cheating .
Leave your husband and let him find someone to share his life with who is worthy of his love and you and your boy friend go and start your life together , your being very cruel and on another note your making it harder for a government to take seriously the idea of gay marriages , because if your willing to cheat why should they allow you into our world when we have enough cheating straight husband/wife teams doing it?
Your NOT helping the cause man seriously move out and start your life elsewhere.
2007-09-24 13:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step into your husbands shoes. Would you be cool with him having a girlfriend on the side because you dont satisfy what he needs? Be fair and tell your husband that there is an issue in your marriage. If you cant work it out at least give him the opportunity to find someone else too. Do you think you are being fair.. really.?
2007-09-24 13:17:58 · answer #11 · answered by Candi 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋