Follow up question: Why is it usually the MEN who make anti-marriage jokes?

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Answer #11 by Paul A illustrates my point. (No disrespect to Paul A is intended. I'm just using the answer as a demonstration.) Women don't joke about marriage being not a word but a sentence, something that they have to pay for years and years down the road. Women don't see it that way.

So it gets down to the heart of my question. Why do men hate marriage so much?

Answer 1

First off men are naturally bigger joke tellers than women and they have a different sense of humor than women.

It has always been a big thing among men especially married men... I just recently got married again and was razzed about it and am still am in fact... it is just some peoples idea of bonding and kidding around.

Answer 2

Like it or not over millions of years men have been raised to impregnate as many females as possible to insure the survival of the species. It's part of their dna code and leads to the subtle suggestion that to be monogamous is anti-man or even anti-human - hence humor regarding marriage in these more enlightened times. Just as women, being the nurturers and nestbuilders, are very anti-anything that threatens the home or monogamous relationships, since that is what insures the survival of the family unit (and leads to interest in this question).

Answer 3

Because women initiate 75% of divorces, cheat the same, and take away the man's child 80% of the time after the divorce.

1) 40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the fathers visitation to punish their ex-spouse.
["Frequency of Visitation" by Sanford Braver, American Journal of Orthopsychiatry]

2) 50% of mothers see no value in the fathers continued contact with his children.
["Surviving the Breakup" by Joan Berlin Kelly]

Tell me why a guy should get married today?

Answer 4

I don't think that men hate marriage. There are too many of us who try more than once. I think men resent change. The old truth is that a woman marries a man hoping to change him while a man marries a woman hoping she'll never change. A lot of men fear or resent change. Marriage brings change. A change in what is acceptable behavior in his home. A change in what is acceptable attire for an evening of entertainment. A change in who are acceptable friends rather than just bad elements in his life. Most men are asked to change the way they think, the things they eat, the way he talks to women who are not on the approved safe friend of the wife list. We know this and we marry anyway because we love her and we are optimists. It is most often in this area that women see the change they hadn't planned on in their men. We are optimists......and women change us.

Answer 5

Probably because in our society marriage is tilted far in the favor of women. Men pay and women receive.

A stay at home wife receives praise. A stay at home husband is criticised.

Women contribute very little to a marriage; men contribute a lot.

Men earn the money and women spend it. In a divorce a women receives the children and most of the property even though the men always earn most of the money, and the children. The men lose their children and have to pay anyway.

Answer 6

All men are afraid of committment some might do the deed and ask the magic question but unless they are truely mature within themselves they never really want to commit that deeply because of all the boundaries it sets up around them.

The responsibility of a morgage , of having to work because its his name on the morgage , of having to support a wife and 2 or 4 or 6 kids , then theres the lawn mowing , fixing thing's around the house or hiring a handy man to do it if they dont know how themselves to do it , its a huge responsability but also you can thank their mum's to , I have noticed from my ex MIL's they set such high standards for their sons and they ram it into their heads dont marry this type of girl , dont marry that type of girl blah blah blah ....ooops sorry I tend to shut off when in laws get mentioned lmao.

Its just life.

Answer 7

Great question. I think they like having someone to pick up after them and have sex when they want. That's all they really want from a woman. No conversation, just food, cleaning and sex.

Answer 8

men don't hate marriage. that's just the way we deal with it sometimes. like when somebody does something incredibley inappropriate, we "tease" them. not because we dislike them, it's a checks and balances thing.

Answer 9

I have heard just as many women make the same remarks. Please don't single the men out.

Answer 10

i dont know my husband loves being married and tells everyone i am a good wife. so i really dont get the question. My husband dont tell me this other people tell me this and i love it. we have been married for 15 yrs.