I went on this blind date and the guy seems great but he's in the military! I've heard horror stories about men in the military or police officers and I tell you it's not pretty. Once he told me that I've been avoiding him . Well he's called me and left me messages. Am I overeating or am I doing the right thing?
2007-09-24 12:51:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I used to be in the military. It still boils down to the individual person. But overall, as a whole, I'd say that lot's of men in the military have a "high and mighty" out look on themselves. And yes, many have a superiority complex. Usually "Average Joe's" go into the military. A lot of guys that aren't well rounded go in to "fight for their country and to blow up foreigners."
I was a Fire Fighter in the Air Force, and just like Police, there is a sense that "We are higher up than everyone else." Because of the fact of what they do. Be heroes and save lives, not to mention that in the military we "serve our country."
All of this can go to a man's head. And trust me, it does.
I'm just being honest here. You don't even want to know how bad the Men get when they go overseas. This might not appeal to you since it probably won't affect your environment nor will it affect American women because it takes place overseas. But trust me, a lot of the guys that get stationed overseas, once again have a high and mighty mentality of being the powerful American. And so many have cheated on their girlfriends and wives that were left back in the states. The foreign women get played too though.
Why am I telling you all this? Because when I was in there it sickened me.As a person who believes in true relationships and as a person that likes all cultures and ethnicities; I hated seeing, hearing and knowing about all the nasty stuff that went on.
Not to mention the amounts of damage, bar fights, stealing etc that happened off base in a foreign country.
Military men behave a little better when they are state side because their Superiority Complex isn't as high.
Now, I'm well aware that I'll probably get thumbs down from some people. But hey, I felt the need to answer your question truthfully and perhaps help you out. Some times the truth hurts.
But keep in mind that there are always good people wherever you go, even in the military and police force. I speak from experience in the military. I have no knowledge about Police.
Just be careful and smart about your decisions. At least now I've given you a heads up about how crazy some military guys can be.
Good luck
2007-09-24 13:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jazz Brotha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the military and have known a great many people that were in the military, most of us are totally normal. I've known police officers as well, strange but they're pretty normal also, except they tend to be a bit more stressed than average and suspect everyone is a criminal, until they get to know you.
Try to get over the generalizations and judge the person on their own merits.
2007-09-24 13:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on his background. Get to know him and where he came from. The say men join the military because its an authority position. If he came from a good home background, he should have great family values. Most men that abuse come from abusive backgrounds, or a history of drug and/or alchohol abuse. If he becomes too pushy and possesive I would back off and give him some space, but get to know him and see where it goes. Good luck.
2007-09-24 12:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's in the Army and he's a wonderful, loving man. I don't understand why you would assume that ALL military men are violent and abusive.
2007-09-24 13:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by yummy1400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're overeacting. there is good and bad everywhere you go.
2007-09-24 12:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋