I have found a dear friend, both of us have hit the burnt end of the separation stick.... I care deeply for her... yet I am frightened to show these deeper feelings, frightened cos often the bridge to love rips the wheels off the carriage of friendship.
so .. ideas and comments... ?
2007-09-24 12:07:49 · 19 answers · asked by Lindum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay listen you need to know for sure that she feels the same. and if she does, you should tell her how you feel and all that good stuff and tell her that you understand what she has gone through and that you don't want to hurt her like she got hurt last time. and you really care about her, and that you don't want to hurt her either..... oh and if you are sure she is the right one then every thing will work out. oh and just don't pressure her cause i lost some like i cause i did. so yeah good luck.
2007-09-24 12:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is scary to take a chance and share your feelings, but do yo think it is possible your friend may have developed stronger feelings towards you also? The only way you will find out is by asking. Can you kind of edge into it to see how she responds and if it is positive, take another step in finding out if the two of you can move ahead here?
2007-09-24 21:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Organise night's out to the cinema or an art museum , or a concert in the park under the stars , chat to her , laugh with her and just enjoy , if anything is going to come out of it you'll find out just by doing this kind of stuff with her.
If you go for the concert in a park make sure its not anything to loud so you can sit have a picnic and talk and rediscover life together.Good luck.
2007-09-24 19:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know that this will help but- I married my best friend we were friends since we were 12. I too was worried that our friendship would end as our love began, but honestly we have become better friends because of it. It is hard to determine if the risk is worth it and all situations are different. Just thought I'd let you know it sometimes works.
2007-09-24 19:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking back on the memory of
The dance we shared 'neath the stars alone
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye
And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
Holding you I held everything
For a moment wasn't I a king
But if I'd only known how the king would fall
Hey who's to say you know I might have chanced it all
And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
Yes my life is better left to chance
I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss the dance
Ask her to dance, my friend... ask her to dance the dance of love and life with you... for it is everything....
2007-09-24 19:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how you cross that bridge Are you crossing the bridge together (as friends) or is she just waiting at the other side. If you WANT a friend in your partner, and I think most people do, then put your heart in the right place.
2007-09-24 19:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've experienced shabby relationships and poor treatment at the hand of someone who professes to love you, it's difficult not to worry over such things in a new relationship. Do what you think will lead to happiness, regardless of the past, regardless of the risk. Eventually SOMETHING is bound to work to the good.
2007-09-24 19:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by Candidus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I THINK UR NEVER TO OLD TO FIND LOVE, & I ALSO THINK YOUR GOOD LADY MAY BE THINKING THE SAME AS YOU ARE. SO I THINK YOU SHOULD BOTH SHOW UR TRUE FEELINGS, AS THEY SAY = BETTER TO HAVE LOVED & LOST THAN NEVER HAVE LOVED AT ALL.
GO FOR IT, MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT YOU BOTH HAVE, IF THE WHEELS DO COME OFF THEN JUST SLIDE ALONG, AT LEAST YOU WILL BE TOGETHER, LIFE IS TO SHORT, LIVE FOR THE MOMENT, GOODLUCK
2007-09-24 19:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you don't do anything unless you really love her. My best guy friend likes me, but he hasn't done anything, because he's not positive yet if he still likes another girl. You don't want to confess your feelings if they're not 100% strong. I think you should tell your friends to tell her that you like her, and see what type of reaction she gives. If it's positive, tell her yourself. If not, give it some time.
2007-09-24 19:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ask her out and tell her she's the most beautiful woman on earth and you love her , if she doesnt love you back just tell her you will love to be friends but separate for a while, (you both need to get over the shock), hope all is well.
2007-09-24 19:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by beebee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋