Ok Well I don't know if this is so much a question as I just need to vent.
My Ex FINALY calls and wants to do something with our daughter, The last time was when he wanted to impress a girl with what a great dad he is, he asked her to go to church with them.. she said NO well the girl never saw him again.. ok because the girl just wanted to be his friend..
SO he has been trying to impress this girl half his age now ( another one).. I KNOW this is why he asked her to the fair because come to find out this girl has told him she wants to just be friends as well.. well she has 3 kids and wanted it to be him and his kid and her and hers.. well my daughter wanted to go to the fair so she said ok..
Now he tells me she and I are just friends... because I have told him I don't think its right to get our daughter involved in relationships that we don't know where they are going.. because it is always the kids who get hurt..
OHH we are just friends he tells me.. though I know he wants more.
2007-09-24 12:00:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so he shows to pick my girl up..
I say jokingly.. Hey bring me back a corn dog!!.. and he says'
I don't know if I have enough money since i'm paying for 3 kids 2 adults and a teenager..
So I say.. well I thought this girl is just a friend why are you paying for all of them, you have one kid?
So he just shoots me the FU look..
Now I am sitting here just pissed off..
One I didn't want her to go because he does n't have his drivers license since he got his 2nd dui..
2.. this girl is just pure white trash.. a stripper ,half his age who also has no drivers license because of her dui's..
I am pissed he is using my daughter to get himself laid..
I am pissed because he is a liar.. everything he says is a lie..
He is mentaly ill and I never know when he is going to flip out so I worry about my daughter being with him..
He drinks and does drugs which I detest..
What the hell was the point of lying to me yet again?
why is he using my girl to get a woman?
I wish now i'de said NO
2007-09-24 12:05:04 · update #1
Hey Juliass, I am in the right catagory.. perhaps you are not
2007-09-24 12:06:25 · update #2
I guess mainly I just needed to vent.. I am just so sick of seeing my daughter hurt by her father..
2007-09-24 12:09:46 · update #3
Arthur we have been divorced for over 6 years.. he literaly NEVER does anything with our daughter unless it is like this situation.. he wants to make himself look good for a woman..
and I do hope he finds someone so he will stop trying to control my life but I just don't think its fair to use our daughter..
I would like to see him find someone respectable.. he is a total loser though since our divorce.. he drinks does drugs.. hands with dopers and drunks and thieves.. he's had 2 dui's and has been in the mental hospital..
It is hard to go into all the details .. I mean I could write a book about this guy..
2007-09-24 12:13:14 · update #4
sorry but YES it does matter what he is doing when it involves my daughter.. he has crushed her so many times, he uses her and she knows it and hates it..
It just ticks me off that he is so self centeredas to use her like this.. he has always been that way and its one of the reasons i left him.. it was always about him.. evenwhen we weremarried he never spent time with our daughter unless it was to make himself look good for family or friends..
He acted jealous of her even as an infant.. he is seriously mentaly ill and I try to be understanding.. but using her is just dead wrong..
2007-09-24 12:16:26 · update #5
Omg, this story sounds so familiar. My ex didn't spend much time with our daughter when we were together, now its just when he needs to put on the good daddy act when he meets a girl with children. It too makes me sick, but I feel this way, the kids will see the true colors eventually. Just remember anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy. He will eventually hang himself, give it time.
2007-09-24 12:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do understand where you are coming from my ex pulled the same thing with our adult children. He never spent any quality time with our kids and often told them he couldn't stand them while they were growing up..... when he met up with his bar fly he wanted all his kids around to glorify what a great father he was! The truth is they were all so desperate for attention from him they fell for it! It has been some years now since he married her and he has 7 biological grandchildren and he never visits or calls his children or his grandchildren to this day. He used his own kids to make his then girlfriend think that he was really special and in the end she was all about herself to and had nothing to do with his family because she didn't want to look at his past!!! If I were you I would not let him take your daughter anywhere in a car due to his DWI record and not having a drivers license. I would contact family services on this issue and ask that supervised visits be established for your daughters saftey. You do have a leg to stand on here with this one and I would use it out of concern for your child! I would not let him use this child to uplift himself and he would have to prove to me and the courts that he is in counseling or something to get himself right! The history of him taking drugs and being in a mental hospital and hanging out with women that have no class or morals gives you every reason to be worried about the well being of your daughter! I would get some legal advice here and if you have to file a child protection order against him untill he gets his life on track if he honestly can? You are only being protective of your child physically and mentally and all she has here is YOU to keep her safe....you know this father more than anybody so if you feel that your child could be in any danger with him take every precaution to fight and protect her.
2007-09-24 12:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All relationships must begin at step 1 which is usually friends and with time develops into something or dies. It sounds like hes just at step 1 with this woman and wants to see how the kids and adults inter mingle before going any further. He is your ex and your daughters father but it his life and hes just trying to move on past you and trying to incorporate his aughter into his new one. Its actually no more than what you would be trying if you met someone new. Think about it; does it really matter what hes doing, after all he is your ex and no longer your concern. Good luck
2007-09-24 12:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like your daughter sees him for who he is. You can't control him, so just ignore him. Let him make himself look like an @ss-clown in front of your daughter. He'll be doing it to himself
2007-09-24 12:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have your daughter around all the various women.....
2007-09-24 12:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you question is? Should you be concerned? Not if you tell x-hubby you want to meet the girl, he wants your daughter to meet.
2007-09-24 12:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
EX HUSBANDS ARE THE DEVIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-24 12:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by charmed? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋