I take care of the kids, etc. and I started a jewelry business. My collection will be complete in a month ready for my online store. I said that doesn't count? He said not until I bring in some money. (I mean I'm not sitting on my ***. I have to start somewhere. There has to be a beginning to a business. U can't make money before u have your collection and I've worked hard.) What do u think? I feel underappreciated. and angry.
2007-09-24 11:52:57 · 24 answers · asked by whisperer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make him take the kids for 24 hours...alone. If he doesn't appreciate the patience it takes to care for a house and kids then it sounds like he's never done it before. Also, when you start making money, don't give him any. Save it up in case you meet a chippendale in vegas named bobby and you need to pay for an executive suite at the bellagio. It could happen:)
2007-09-24 11:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by blueshiva7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also would feel underappreciated and angry if this was said to me. In the past there have been women who went on strike (even picketing their own home) saying they weren't going to do the chores they were doing since they obviously had no value. As a result of some of these it made the husband aware of how much it really did involve. I'm not saying you have to do a public spectacle of this, but it seems he doesn't realize that things just don't go on by themselves. Lots of luck.
2007-09-24 21:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the statistics on what a "stay at home mom" would make if we got paid for everything we do. Check it out sometime. Plus your working at starting your own business. He has no idea. I say kudos to you girlfriend. So many men have that same attitude. I can't say enough on this subject. That way of thinking gets under my skin. Don't give up your dreams. I'll bet he changes his mind when you are bringing in the money. Just make sure you keep some for yourself.
2007-09-24 19:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by sxyalmond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel the same way.When i wasn't working my man kept saying bull**** stuff to me.But i was the one taking care of the kids and the house work. It's not an easy job for anyone.Notice that the men don't stay home with the kids?I'd just do what you think is best and what you have your heart set on doing.What he's scared of is your gonna do so good that your gonna bring in more money than he is.
2007-09-24 19:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by like2bdirty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and talk to him tell him how u feel tell him to take over ur spot taking care of the kids and handling that jewelry online store and u will go out and look for a job lets see how much he likes that idea hes ur husband and he has to appreciate everything u do that is why ur together to support each other and be with each other in everything
2007-09-24 19:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by sweeteyes818 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a man like that: when I stayed home with the kids, I wasn't doing anything. When I took a job if we needed it, I didn't work as hard as him or make as much money as he did. Nothing I did made him happy. Basically, he was insecure about himself and had no one else to take it out on but me. I also felt angry and unappreciated. But it also hurt my feelings: I go out of my way to do all this sh!t for him and he STILL complains? I finally left him, because of that and many other things. You can't listen to that for too many years without it either ruining your self-esteem or making you want to leave. And I refused to let that ******** ruin my self-esteem.
Good luck! You do just as much as him and more: when he gets off work, he's OFF WORK. But you're not; you're at work 24 hours a day. Trust me, I know. You have to be Mommy, Doctor, Teacher, Chef, Maid, Plumber, Painter, Arts & Craft Lady, Story-Teller, Disciplinarian, Referee (if you have more than one kid), Negotiator, Taxi Driver, Activities Director... all mine had to be was an electrician.
2007-09-24 19:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your dream and let NO man tell you otherwise including your husband. I sense a little jealousy on his part because he envys you doing what you want to. If youre actually doing something you love,the money will follow and then he will really be jealous of you. So for right now dont put too much meaning into what he says abd besides actions speak louder than words so go for it and good luck in you dream endeavor.
2007-09-24 19:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your husband says that what you do doesnt count having children and raising them is full time job, You dont have to go out and bring some money in thats what hes there for to provide for his family. dont worry be happy and pay him no attention now if he had to work and take care of house and kids all day he wouldnt be talking like this belive me he would be to tired.
best of luck
2007-09-24 19:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you've been working to get the store online:
Months or a year or so, good for you!
10 years: I can see why he'd be annoyed.
Yes, I know it is hard to work around kids, so that adds time. But he should calm down when he sees the results - just try to hit opening day that you promised, please!
2007-09-24 19:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by stenobrachius 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOO your husband is SO out of line on this.
YES you do work.. Your a 24/7 DOMESTIC ENGINEER!!!!r.. you do it all!!! Let's see HIM do it.. as well as you do!
My husband in the early years of our marriage (had 5 kids still), use to say what do you do all day? watch soaps? Well HE found out .. when I went to visit my sister for 2 weeks!!!
He apologized and said I will never criticize you again on what you do all day long!!! lol
That's super your getting a business going!! good luck with that!!!
2007-09-24 19:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by linda_c_44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋