2007-09-24 11:35:57 · 15 answers · asked by Jerseychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married before and i was unhappy and i left. I never meant to hurt my ex but I didn't want to waste anymore of his life or mine. At first I was kind of scared because we had this and that but It came down to one question. Am I happy?? Money and things are not more important than your own happiness. Misery or Happiness?? I choose happiness!! What really is scary is waking up one morning and you life has passed you by and you spent it being miserable, when you could have been happy...*
2007-09-24 11:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know. I was 25 before I even had my first date. I was along all through high school and college and thought life could not be any more miserable. But when I finally found a girl who would go out with me, we ended up getting married. Even though we have been together for 13 years now, most of them have been miserable. I have seen both sides, being along and being with someone who makes you miserable. I can honestly say, as bad as I thought being alone was, it was much much better than getting through life married but miserable. If I had to go back, I think I would have preferred staying alone. But I do know what you mean. I have seen countless people (mainly women it seems) that settle for any jerk that comes along because they are feeling so desperate that they will grow old alone. All I can say is being alone is awful at times, but being married and miserable is much worse.
2007-09-24 21:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by alanpvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its actually not. What youre describing is change and changes are never easy.Youre changing being comfortable in a relationship to being totally alone with no one around to talk to, to eat with,etc and the thought of the unknown scares you. You are not sure of whats going to happen to you and even the thought of possibly never finding someone again really scares you. You are just afraid of change which is a normal reaction to it. You just need to figure out whether youre better off staying where you are or calling it quits and moving on to a better life and then just doing it. You really can and it probably wont be as near as scary as it appears now. Good luck
2007-09-24 18:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times people with stay with someone they are miserable rather than being alone because that way they feel like they are needed. It brings a purpose to their life, and helps them to define it. Although they don't need to be miserable, and shouldn't remain miserable, they are comforted by the fact that they are with someone.
2007-09-24 18:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Effect 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because familiar pain is EASIER than the fear of change.
It isn't really what's scarier. It's what's easier. People don't want to do what's hard. I know; I didn't for years. But finally you reach a point where you have to because you can't take it another damn day. That's when you decide you don't care how hard it is or how scary it is. It's weird... you don't even realize how truly miserable you really were until later.
2007-09-24 19:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I felt that way for years until one day I woke up and realized life is too damn short to be that miserable. Now I wonder what on earth I was so scared of. Being single is amazing!!
2007-09-24 21:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine being alone being scary! I am alone now after two useless husbands and it is absolutely wonderful!! I can do the dishes when I want to with no one to tell me what to do and when. If I want to curl up with a book and a cup of tea I can do it. I can do the things I want to do without having to consult with anyone first. I can have the friends I like. If I want to go to college again.....I can do it! Such freedom!! I am in heaven.
2007-09-24 18:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. If you stay with someone who makes you miserable, then there is a HUGE potential for you to end up on Dateline or 48 Hours- a story about how this lady killed her husband rather then divorce him. Leaving is much better than that don't you think?
2007-09-24 18:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by *bAdHaBiT* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when your alone your not with the one you love and when your with that love of your life your fine but your still not the happiest you could be. It's like you'd rather have them in your life even if they don't make you happy than not having them in your life at all. Which to me wouldn't make sense but is a feeling that needs to be thought about.
2007-09-24 18:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know; the thought of being alone does not scare me.
2007-09-24 18:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋