My husband and I in the next few months are going to try and get custody of his children. Not take them away from their mother but for part of the year. She is a very hard person to talk to or reason with that is why we are going through the courts. Does anyway know of any Web sites or anyone that could give some advice as to what to expect?
2007-09-24 10:56:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok again I have to add something. All of your have answered so far have said nothing but bad things about me and my husband. First of all we pay what we can most often, we don't make alot of money. We don't want to take the kids away from her, if you read the question it says for part of the year!! Like either school or summer. She won't let my husband see them at all!! Also in the terms of their custody agreement is says she pays for it, sends him a paid bill and he has 30days to pay half. She calls us out of no where and says she needs money now so she can pay for something. Why is it fair to assume that we have extra money right that second?? She knows how much we make. Thank you to the person who was nice about it, and read it and did not judge. Oh and they my be my step kids but I have rights to them too.
2007-09-24 11:39:58 · update #1
Iget the feeling that no of these people really read yor question. You clearly stated that you were not trying to take the kids, buthave more access to them. divorcenet.com is okay, but I usually just goolge "free legal advice" and it gives me a list of free sites. I hope you guys have the best of luck, every child should be allowed to see BOTH parents.
2007-09-24 11:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard being a step parent, but things eventually settle down. Dealing with the courts is a good idea in this situation since she isn't able to be fair or direct in her issues with you two. If you tried googling something like online support going through divorce, children involved, etc.? I would say that what you do with the courts is get everything as specific as you can. Make sure you understand what is in the agreement, because you all will have to follow it or you will be breaking the agreement.
2007-09-24 21:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect a big fight if you think a mother is just going to release her children to you. I saw your other questions...Child support only goes for necessity and medical and dental but should include sports, music lessons college funds etc. The person paying the child support usually only gives what they have to not what they should and It is left to the parent with the children. Not fair. What did this ex do or is doing to make you think she needs to hand the kids over to you two more? I would be soo pisses. I know as a divorced mom of four if my ex and his wife pulled what you are pulling I would take you both down. Money wise, job wise, etc. Unless she is doing drugs or inappropriate things with or to the children then you need to back off.
2007-09-24 18:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention your state you reside in hon.
Different states have different orders, statutes, rules.
You are better off going through your courts. Get a good attorney.
I really hope the kids will be staying in the same schools. It's too hard for them to be stranfered and such.
Check your states web sight.
2007-09-24 18:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope the children aren't very old, as they will remember this battle, remember that no matter who wins or looses, the other party will always be the bad un's. especially if there is an older child
2007-09-24 18:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by ang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be supportive of him. He must do the work. Stay out of it. He is best defense is a good offensive. He needs a good attorney to assist him in this. He needs a Good wife to support him.
Good Luck!
2007-09-24 18:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"they my be my step kids but I have rights to them too" No you don't. If you were not married to their father you would be of no relation to them. You have no rights to those children other than THROUGH their father.
2007-09-25 01:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
expect a big legal battle; and expect the mother of those children to fight you with everything she's got; then after it's over, whether you "win" or not, you will have lost.....
2007-09-24 17:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a pissed off mother is one of the worst things to deal with...be careful and i hope you have a leg to stand on...children need to be with their mothers...is your ex trying to take your kids? and if he was, how would you feel?
2007-09-24 18:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Joey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
divorcenet.com
2007-09-24 17:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋