I'm actually being serious. This has happened to me an untold amount of times in the last two years.
It happened again just now when I just went to the shop across the road!
I don't care if they don't mean any harm - it bothers me a lot!
Why do they do it?!
Sometimes I feel like I never want to go out again. At least not alone anyway.
I don't know what to do about this.
2007-09-24 10:54:37 · 22 answers · asked by cosmicmoon 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Carry pepper spray just in case.
Keep a good amount of distance between you and the stranger. Doesn't matter if they think it's insulting. Your safety is the primary issue here.
If they keep coming after you or try to get closer or make any suspicious movements I would run, call for help, go to a busy area and attract as much attention as possible.
As much as possible, try not to look like an easy target. Make eye contact and look around aggressively while you are walking alone. Don't fiddle with your purse, your keys, or your cell phone. Be aware.
2007-09-24 10:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if your fear is justified or not. I do know that more people seem to be doing whatever they want regardless of the consequences. You apparently are feeling a little of that, too.
At least two possibilities to consider:
1) You appear vulnerable and the stranger is sizing you up for any number of reasons;
2) You might be a very nice catch.
In any case, get right to your concern the next time you are approached without showing fear. If you are fearful without cause during the encounter, you might miss some crucial information. Remember that fear attracts and you might be unconsciously inviting these encounters.
Start removing your fears about everything right today and you will most assuredly live a less stressful, happier life.
2007-09-24 18:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Starte Christ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends alot on where I am, and if the other person has business being there. Last time I was downtown, I had a guy come up to me on a deserted street. It was real late. I did the only thing I could think of- I turned and faced him and asked if I could help him with something. He turned out not to want anything more than change. So just use your judgment. Watch the body language of the other person. If all your inner alarm bells go off, there's no shame in running.
2007-09-24 17:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk the streets alone and always make eye contact with the person walking by, near or towards you. When you make eye contact with strangers, they are less likely to harm you in any way because you have already seen them. People who are looking to harm someone on the streets, won't be stupid enough to let you see them. Always look behind you, in front of you and to the side. Walk or run fast if you feel uncomfortable or cross the street. If there is a house near by with a porch light on, pretend you are gonna knock on that door, watch where the person goes and take a different direction so that the stranger won't see where you are headed. If there is a store open near by, go in there and watch the stranger as he/she keeps walking and go the other way. You can't live your life in fear of others but one can't be too careful. I am just like you with people. I trust no one! Good Luck!
2007-09-24 18:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, don't walk on your own at night. In this day and age it's not safe so just don't do it. Make sure friends walk you home if you're out with them or that you get everything done that you need to before it gets dark so you don't have to go out again.
If anyone ever tries to attack you (which I hope will never happen), then strike them anywhere down the centre of their body. This is where all the vital organs are so it should disable them to give you enough time to run.
Go to self-defence, it'll make you feel more confident knowing you can handle yourself.
2007-09-24 18:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are blatantly approaching you, look them in the eye, so they know that you are aware of them. If they know you know what they look like, they might not do anything. Carry your keys in your hand, with a key sticking out between your pointer and middle finger -- in case they try to harm you, you can use the key to stick them in the eye or throat. Carry yourself with confidence -- head high, always aware of your surroundings. If this always seems to happen in the same area, you might want to call the police and tell them that there's some riffraff around. You may also want to take a self-defense course, usually offered by adult learning places. I took one -- they told us to yell, "NO! 911!" from the bottom of your gut.
2007-09-24 18:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I avoid talking to strangers even in daylight especially if they approach me on the streets. I usually pretend I don't hear what they say, stay out of eye-contact and keep on going. That's also my advice to you.
2007-09-24 17:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by neshama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little worried, depends on who they are and what they want from me. But I'm only out at night if i'm walking my dog and i don't think anyone would approach me unless they know me. As my Staffie is very protective towards me.
2007-09-24 18:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by approaches you?
Are they making an indecent proposition in which case you are right to be bothered
Are they asking for directions?
Or are they just spooky?
2007-09-24 17:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that other strang people are on the street after dark as well as you.
Either that or stay in at night.
2007-09-24 17:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋