My boyfriend just broke up with me, and I’m suspecting that he cheated on me. I have lived with him for a year and about 4 months. However before that, I lived alone in the townhome for about 2 years. Now I am financially drained (had some emergency expenses). I have so much stuff to move, and to be honest I don’t know where to start. I’m moving in with my sister (for financial reasons, and I’m thinking it will be for about a year), and it’s going to be such a big change to live in one room when I have had a two bedroom town home that I was used to. I’m thinking of selling most of my things. I’m taking my cat that has never been around other dogs or cats (my sister has a puppy and three cats, one of which is very crazy). I’m just feeling so overwhelmed with loosing someone I love and having to move and start my life over. Any advice?
2007-09-24 10:47:09 · 8 answers · asked by Lenka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for the support!!
2007-09-24 11:04:27 · update #1
Downsizing can be cathartic, if you look at it that way. Scale down, sell the extra and bank the money. You dont need as much as you think you need. Losing a love is hard, but it may actually be a blessing and bring new things and people into your life!! Focus on growth and being good to yourself. You can do it!!!!!
2007-09-24 11:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put it all down to experience, suck it up and retool.
A little righteous anger is good right about now.
Hold a garage sale and get rid of everything... start from scratch... get rid of everything with his funk on it. Pare down on your expenses every way you can and sock money into savings.
The animals will learn to get along... they may fuss at each other for a few weeks or months, but they will move to acceptance pretty quick.
Next time, take time to get to know the guy (preferably run a background check) and go through all the courtship rituals before anyone moves in with you. If he doesn't have the respect to court you and marry you, then don't bother with him.
Don't sell yourself short next time. You were living with this scrub long enough to be considered "common-law married" in most states... in other words, you could be held responsible for any debts he may have racked up. It never adds up. Thank goodness you didn't wind up with kids.
2007-09-24 18:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry - you will be OK. It will be a new start for you. The animals should get along fine as time goes on and you will adjust to being in a small place. Take one day at a time , get yourself settled and don't jump into a new relationship til you are ready. Good luck - look at it as a new adventure and smile!
2007-09-24 18:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. It's hard now, but know you got out of a bad situation. At least you guys weren't married! Now is the time to focus on yourself and learn from this experience so you won't make the same mistake twice.
2007-09-24 18:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't reflect on what you lost ,just keep on focusing on what you still have.Stay positive and realize that you are not going to live in your sisters home forever. You had a nice home once and you will have your own home again .You will overcome this set back.Good luck.
2007-09-24 18:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life has cycles of up's and downs. Once you can get over this low end situation, you will be grown up and be more mature. Consider this is a training.
2007-09-24 17:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep moving forward and remember it's only for a year that you will be sharing your sister's home......have fun with her! before you know it you will have saved enough money to move on your own; and you have learned that you will never ever move in with another man that you aren't married to......
2007-09-24 18:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time, get married before you move in with someone.
2007-09-24 17:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Caesar Jeff 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋