ex) a girl was telling my friend and i who she likes and she said i dont have to worry about you telling anyone because you never talk! I hate that. I already know that, she doesnt have to remind me and make me feel bad! another girl, my friend..said "this is jenny, the quiet one" she was the very least person i would expect to hear that from! ugh!
I really, really would like to stop being so quiet and shy. i know its true, but i want to end this. i do not like it when people call me that. there's more to me that just being "quiet". I am more outgoing outside of school than during school. I also dont really talk unless someone asks me a question i feel i need to, etc. I dont talk to my friends a whole lot either. Its hard for me to show who i am at school, i dont know why though. I guess i just dont feel comfortable. what are some things i can do to stop being so quiet/shy? what type of things should i talk to people about? how can i join a conversation? etc.?
2007-09-24 10:21:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont feel like its your fault cos it sounds like your friends arent helping your confidence.
I used to be the same but now i will give my opinion and speak up.
in school i found it so hard to be myself it was like i felt trapped and that everyone knew the 'quiet' me and no one knew the real me. So therefore i couldnt escape. i felt like i would be criticised if i tried to change. i had no friends and stuck to myself i eventually gave up on trying to be myself until i went to college. dont give up!!
just take it day by day, speak a little louder, hold your head high, take deep breaths and give your opinion, dont listen to what others say and especially.... dont think that what you are about to say is not worth while because it is!
Its hard to express yourself sometimes and for me i would freeze, my mind would go completely blank!
Talk to people about things you have in common with them, make eye contact occasionally, stand in with the group so you feel included, as opposed to behind someone (like i used to do), invite your friends to hang out somewhere. try to do some extra activities where you will meet new people so you can have a fresh start and be the person you should be.
(For me the latter happened when i started college and move away from home)
Sometimes a fresh start is all you need to help you get that extra boost in your confidence, then you can beat your shyness with those that you know
Dont hide show everyone who you are and dont be afraid, im sure you have some great things to say and people will respect you more for it. You'll feel so much better when you dont have to hide your true self everyday :)
2007-09-24 10:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. First of all, u don't have to feel bad about urself if u are a shy person or u talk less. U really don't have to care what the others talk about u. Its ur life and i think it is completely ur choice how u want to live it. If u want to talk less to people, its absolutely alright. Don't mind what the others tell or talk about u. Just be confident of what u are. Always remember that you are in no way any inferior to the others just because u talk less. And i think u really shouldn't be bothered to change urself just for the sake of a few people who say things that u are shy/quite etc etc. But if u want to develop ur personality and come out of this shy n quite image of urs, then it would be different case. The first step would be that u be confident abt urself no matter what. Remember always have a smile on ur face. Give everybody a gentle smile when u see them. Try mingling with new people at school, try talking about the general topics (may be that happened in class/school). Always have a nice n a helpful nature. Due to ur helpful nature, others would like u as a person and then they would feel comfortable n wanna talk to u. This would be a slow process but i am sure u will do just fine.
Good luck!!!!!
2007-09-24 10:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rooheen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the worst and I was the same way. Start out small, during class, raise your hand to answer a question. Especially during english class. If your english class is like mine, you will have plenty of opportunity to share your opinion. When we read novels, we do this "Inner, outer circle discussion" where we all share our opinions on the novel.
After being quiet for a long time it is really hard to be vocal and just change, but you'll feel so much better when you do.
2007-09-24 10:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a younger sister going through this right now, and it pains me to know how much it hurts her.. the advice that I gave her was to just be herself.. Don't worry about what other people think of you .. If you feel like talking do so.. If someone comments that you never talk, just smile and say your throat hurts.. and leave it at that.. :) be open and say hi to people, with a genuine smile, and that will go along way too.. People often think that when you are quiet or shy that you are stuck up or bitchy.. and that's just not the case.. be yourself.
when you are confident with yourself you will be much happier!!
Good luck, and hope it helps
2007-09-24 10:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by nikki f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have recently come over this problem. my perosnal problem was that i was nervous around large groups of ppl. so i was especially nervous in school. so, i made conversation with the ppl sitting next to me. like in math, i wispered to the girl next to me "what did u think of the test?" and just talked about normal stuff to ppl i would see a lot. if u care aout ur shy rep, u should talk more often or stop caring. talking is fun, u get to hear funny things & relate to others, so talk up a it. once u make true friends, ones that u actually talk to, then u will feel more comfortable, trust me. to make these friends, join clubs, activities, sports, work in group projects, act kind 7 talk to the ppl near u in ur classes, etc. talk to ppl regarin where u c them. if they are next to u in math, ask them how they like the teacher. if u play softball with them, ask them what they think of ur team, & stuff. just ask normal, general things & each day talk with the ppl u talked priviously more. Join a conversation simply by joinin in. If a group of ppl are near u & r talking about how hot Zac Efron is, join in by sayin "did u hear they're gonna do a high school musical 4!?" just listen & put r input in. its better to start a conversation though, so u will b more accepted & can realte to it. also, make sure to have confidence and high self esteem. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-09-24 10:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by advice giver & needer! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Force yourself out of your shell. I'm a shy person myself but I usually try to force myself to overcome being insecure and shy. Maybe also try to have more fun and be more optimistic. Just key yourself go and try to enjoy life and not care what other people think. It's their loss, not yours. They're probably just jealous of your awesome personality. :) Best of luck to you. <3
2016-05-17 21:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-24 11:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same here, im not doing anything in school, well i mean like talkwise, but i am more hyperish when i leave school, like i have a different personality, you just have to be more social, like, um......join stuff or so and then maybe your not the same "quiet" one anymore.
2007-09-24 10:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TALK LOUD BUT DONT GET IN TROUBLE
2007-09-24 10:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-09-24 10:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Zur I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋