roomate problem?

Question

i moved back into my old apartment. its cool because my old roomate is still there and a new buddy of his that i get along with is there too.

But there is another roommate that lives in the master bedroom that both of them don't like very much, because of run-ins with him in the past about random things and the fact he can be a jerk about things not going his way. whatever.

Being the new roommate for about 2 weeks now. Ive heard both sides of dislike from each party.

One problem i have with the other roommate is that he smokes weed every single day in his room (not joking), and we(me and the guy i get along with) can smell it though the air ducts. Funny thing is when anyone calls him a pothead he gets mad and denies it.

we dont have any other prospects for new roomates and we dont want to lose him because he pays rent.

what would you do?

p.s. Only my old roommate that lives there now is on the lease.

Answer 1

The guy on the lease should tell the guy who smokes that if he keeps smoking in the house he will have to leave. After all the guy on the lease is in charge. If the guy really needs a place to live he will listen. If he does leave, maybe you guys will each have to pay a bit more until you find a roomate, but it shouldn't take too long! Good luck!

Answer 2

Here are a few tips on how to deal with roommate conflicts:

Identify the conflict

Keep an open mind by listening to the other person’s side

Be honest and tell the other person how you feel

Take time to hear what the other person is really trying to say

Brainstorm together on possible ways to resolve the problem.

Be open to compromise

If you are still feeling frustrated, postpone making a final decision. Give yourself time to calm down

Ask someone else to listen to both sides to help work out an agreeable, nonviolent solution

Settle arguments with words, not weapons

Don’t stand around and watch fights or arguments

Hang out with friends who are also against violence

If you feel afraid or sense danger in a situation, get away immediately

Answer 3

1. It sounds like there are 4 all together roommates and that three of you are in agreement.
2. He pays rent, does that mean that if he left the 3 of you could not pick up the slack until you find another one?
3. Have all 4 of you come together to discuss issues?
4. to me is seems like if EVERYONE is paying the rent then you should be able to say hey, these are the things we want stopped, and he should be able to do the same. If not, then he has the right to leave or (only if all of you are in agreement) the 3 of you can ask him to leave.
5 Lastly, when is the lease up????

Answer 4

I think you should approach him without calling him a pothead... tell him "listen, we know you smoke weed everyday because we can smell it. Smoking weed is your choice, we understand that, but we all pay rent here and we don't want to smell it. It's also illegal and there's always a possibility that a neighbor could call the cops. We appreciate your rent and that you pay on time, but this is becoming quite a problem and don't want to have to ask you to move out. We would really appreciate if you would please go outside or over to a friend's place to smoke."

Calling him names is only going to make him more defensive.

Answer 5

Ummm as long as he pays rent dont say anything to him...maybe he has problems and issues that you dont know about! And I bet all of you being such good friends doesnt make him very comfortable and as far as the weed...how is that any business of yours...he doesnt do it in front of you does he? he doesnt sell it out of the apartment does he then GROW UP and understand that other people have feelings too and you and your friends sitting around trashing him 24/7 doesnt make him feel welcome I'm sure! It could be alot worse so SHUT IT!


****EDIT****
By the way...do you do everything legally? Are you of age to drink? do you bring home underage girls? Are you a bunch of hipocritical goody goodies that think you are better than everyone else...And besides are you sure that the property owner is ok with SUB-LEASING? Cuz if not you could ALL get kicked out! I bet you do worse things than smoke pot! It is a freaking plant! GET OVER YOURSELF! Maybe if you got your azz off of your shoulders you would see that he might not be all that bad of a guy but you automatically judge him and dont know anything about him! AND FOR THE POSTER that said to call the cops~ You are a Fcuking Biotch! I hope somebody beats yous azz! It sounds to me like ya'll are being the jerks about everything not going your way!

Answer 6

The other 2 roommates need to sit him down and explain they don't like what he's doing and you all want to live together in peace. Problem is, you're the new kid on the block technically so he would not appreciate you being in "the meeting". They should talk to him over beers casually so he doesn't feel picked on.
Good luck!

Answer 7

yo, if this is the biggest problem you got, you should feel fortunate. this guy smoking is no different than you or your friend having a sixpack after work or school. Maybe he has alot going on in his life and smoking a joint is the only way he keeps undercontrol?

The point is you dont know! So quit hating on him and if it bothers you, just open your window. Its only weed! the plant is natural and causes no bad effects to you, especially if you just catch a whif of it.

Just be glad the roommate isnt a constant partier or womanizer or worse. Just be glad there isnt a family of homeless livin in there with him or he has 10 cats or plays music ridiculously loud, or doesnt pay the rent on time, or steals your food, or.......


see my point? trust me, its not bad.

Answer 8

Short of getting him arrested I don't believe there is anything you can do legally to make him go away (and you say you need his rent)......you are in a dilemma -- that sucks! If it gets to the point where you don't NEED his rent portion you can have him evicted but you must go through the legal process --- he's been residing there so you can't just kick him out --- HOWEVER, the owner of the place can do something too, especially if he isn't on the lease.

Answer 9

The weed-smoking roommate is disrespectfull of the other roommates.
If he respected the other roomates he would smoke his weed outside and not impose the stink of his habit on others.
the non-smokers are in the majority and should insist on being respected. Your roomate could use a reminder that weed is still illegal and if push comes to shove he could be reported for possesion and use.

Answer 10

the quantity of circumstances i've got had arguements with housemates over washing up! many times a cleansing rota will clean up a good style of issues. yet maybe you may desire to have a be conscious with your housemate your self? Or exchange what cleansing jobs you do? And if all else fails - purchase a dishwasher!