friends for years and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love (he was surprinsingly "not shy" and very outgoing when we hooked up) with BUT "life challenges" (death, lost a close friend) and rumors/assumptions from friends made you us drift apart and it created tension and misundertandings BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)
i wrote him a heartfelt letter telling him the truth and reminding him i was there for him and i really cared. After this, he would put up more pictures of me and him on his page. It was about 6 months since we saw each other & i noticed he was "cautious" in his behavior at times.He would txt me to ask my day and i said something that might have been suggestive of flirting (joking but didn't mean/realize it) and he didn't respond.
Hung out with him one day and in public he seemed normal - poke me if i said something silly, make fun of me but when we went to his house, he got quiet and more shy. He kept the door open in his room and when i hugged him bye he said, "i was supposed to wait 'til you got to your car"...and everytime i see him he says, "just hit me up"
i called him and he picked up and talked for 10 minutes...a few days after, i texted - he didn't respond back...couple days after that, i left him a msg asking about a class and he never called back...I thought everything was okay again...WHY IS HE ACTING LIKE THIS? compared to back in the day we would always talk and he's call back...did he change? what happened?
2007-09-24 09:29:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually he doesn't know how to relate himself to other people, not a good canidate for a deep and meaningful relationship. But let me just explain this to you, bad things happen to us as humans all the time, that doesn't mean we get excuses to hide ourselves from the people we love, thats actually EXTREMELY harmful to our own wellbeing. So thats why I say this guy could be a bad canidate. See I've lost a friend to a heartattach at the age of 17 (can you believe that?) it didn't breck me because I had great friends to talk to and I knew HOW to talk to them to make myself feel better, to come to terms, thats a survival skill that if you don't have can cause pain for yourself and everyone that loves you, which is want your dealing with now.... sorry being a good person doesn't exclude you from doing bad things....
2007-09-26 04:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like i said, the fact that he lost one of his friends is coming back to him and he's afraid to loose u
2007-09-24 16:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Drekentai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋