Okay so me & my ex have 2 kids 2gether. I work full-time, am a full-time stu in college, am renting a house w/ my cousin but about to get my own place, meaning I'll be paying full rent, car, ins., all the kids expenses (i dont' ask him for anything) He only pays half of the daycare $250.00 I also pay the other half. He lives w/ his parents & pays truck pymt. $350.00, couple credit cards, no rent, no food (parents provide) NO were close the bills I pay. So since I'll be taking on more bills so the kids can have their own home & space, I asked him if he could pay the full daycare a month another $250 to help me out when I move into my place. My aunt watches the kids really cheap both fulltime for only 500.00 when it could be double anywhere else. So I ask him & he says NO that he can't afford it, that if I want my own place it's my problem. He thinks it's completely fair to only pay 250 a month in daycare & that's it when I'm struggling to do what I need to so the kids & I can stop
2007-09-24 09:23:36 · 13 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
living out of a bedroom at my cousin's house. YES we are cramped in one room. He thinks because he's got it made in the shade at his parents, by the way he's 30 living at home mooching off of them, that he doesn't have to help me anymore then what he does. Is that right??? am I really asking to much for him to take on 250 more when I'll be putting roof, food in their mouths, clothes on their back cause I buy most of the stuff & pay for even my sons haircuts. I hate him so much I don't want to get ugly. I'm thinking about even telling him the days I have the kids my aunt will take care of them for me and the days he needs a sitter to find his own. I know he's going to be pissed but I don't know how to deal with him anymore. I even do him the favor of not taking him to child support. UGH so irritated right now!!!
2007-09-24 09:26:56 · update #1
Also I pay 400.00 alone in insurance for the kids cause he works for his dad and don't have insurance so of course I can't let them be w/out so I even pay that.
2007-09-24 09:28:32 · update #2
In response to not taking him to court yet, he always says that I'm being money hungry so I'm trying to not be like that and drag it in to court but he leaves me no option now. I tried to be the cool ex.
2007-09-24 09:37:04 · update #3
the court system will take care of everything sweetheart. Don't make your road any harder than it has to be.. I don't care if he's living with a millionaire.... he's supposed to support his kids. Seek help today.
2007-09-24 09:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, don't make the same mistake I did, not taking him to court, not asking for anything, always being the nice one. He helped make the children, now he needs to help support them. My oldest is 17 now and I never asked for a penny and he never gave a penny. I just didn't want any arguing. However, that was a big mistake. Don't even ask, go to court, he will have to pay much more in the end. And REMEMBER, its for your Children. Especially since you are trying to educate yourself more and continue with college. Good luck.
2007-09-24 09:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court. Why do you want to be the "cool" ex at the expense of your children? He certainly could care less about being a cool ex or even a responsible father. Get a court order!
2007-09-24 09:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by fnd40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and get your child support. It will be a portion of his pay. Makes you wonder why you wanted to make 2 kids with this deadbeat.
2007-09-24 09:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by always b natural 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the attorney generals office. They will set up child support based on his income. They will also reimburse you for those medical expenses. There is no reason for you to guess whether or not he should pay you and for what. This is what I did and I got more than I expected.
2007-09-24 09:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest you are just plain stupid.... Take him to court and make him pay child support!!!!! This is the only way you will be guaranteed to get any money out of this deadbeat!!!!
2007-09-24 09:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not asking too much. But you will probably have to get a court order to get the support your kids are entitled to.
2007-09-24 09:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by stenobrachius 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to pay his support like all others. Living at home or not. Life.
2007-09-24 09:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court to get your child support raised.
2007-09-24 09:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court. It is not money grubbing to require a father to fill his financial responsibility. Your kids deserve better.
2007-09-24 11:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Haley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋