he even admitted that seeing our daughter being born freaked him out a little and he didn't view sex the same way as he did before he watched me give birth. she is only 3 months old and it bothers me that he feels this way. will the feeling go away and when? What can i do to help him get over it?
2007-09-24 09:09:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
actually i lost all the weight after the baby, he said he wished i had kept a little bit of it because i am too small.
2007-09-24 09:23:19 · update #1
he said it feels the same down there, it just freaks him out now. i think he pictures the baby coming out when he is down there.
2007-09-24 09:53:31 · update #2
Shoot that was something I probably shouldn't have seen either ... lol ... come on who really wants to see their hoo hoo like that ... it freaked me out ... it will probably take some time ... and a few sessions - good sessions ... with toys and lots of lube for him to get over it ... lol ... good luck ... tell him to stop acting like a p*ssy and grow up ... !
2007-09-24 09:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
When you were pregnant where did he think the baby was going to come from. Tell him that you had the baby out of love and that your body will go back to feeling the way it was once before it's natural for some men to look at birth like it's a bad thing but in reality it's the most beautiful thing in the world and every time he looks at your daughter he should see nothing but love for you because she came from love or tell him to get some counseling.
2007-09-24 09:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Spacious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He'll get over it. It will take a little time, cuz the next time he goes down, he's gonna imagine your VaJ opening up like WhoA!! I mean really seeing somthing as pretty and soft , doing the Miracle of birth is crazy! He is not immature, it's just diffrent.
2007-09-24 09:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that will go away. I think its just the sight of seeing how the va-j-j is stretched and delivery although is a wonderful thing is not a beautiful sight. Seeing the birth of their children can make anyone queasy. Alot of men look away while their wife is delivering. That feeling in due time will pass.
2007-09-24 09:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sugastack 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it will go away. It's kind of traumatic to see the thing you've gotten used to for one thing being used -- and stretched out of proportion -- for another. But it will take a little time. In the meantime, lots of oral and patient understanding. At the 6 month mark he'll be in a better state of mind.
2007-09-24 09:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by terry m 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
a very good friend of mine had the same problem...her husband saw the first child born, and well, he was kinda grossed out. it took him a while for the sex to get back to normal...but it did...2 kids later, they are wonderful. i think its kinda the same as when women get the post partum depression...some people get it, some dont. some people it can take a month to get over, some it could take a year.
2007-09-24 09:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He will get over it. Get a sitter for a night. Go out for dinner. Intimacy can be difficult after having a child. He may see you as the mother of his child, but you just have to remind him that you are also his wife. Afterall, the stork didn't make that baby.
2007-09-24 09:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
hey just give it time he will come around, i went though the same thing but i got over it. you two have 18-20 yrs to go with your new baby so don't worry about.
2007-09-24 09:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That was a shock of a life time for me! Isaw my son crowning, and nearly passed out! And when he came out, it did cjange things abit. But with time, I began seeing her as a WOMAN and not a lil hard body, which only addded to r excitement!!
2007-09-24 09:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He will get over it - they all do. Giving birth is not glamourous by any means but it is a natural part of life.
2007-09-24 09:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋