I've been married for 9 hard yrs, a old crush that I absolutely loved has come back into my life, I can not let him go. He's married and still has feelings for me.He has been with his wife for 9 yrs as well, I believe he has thought of me all this time, I've thought of him everyday for 9 yrs!! What do I do? Is there such a thing as fate?
2007-09-24 09:07:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have not done anything! We have not cheated on our spouses! We just talk and our spouses know we talk.
2007-09-24 09:20:55 · update #1
Go for it don't let be one of those things that you will always wonder what if,, if theres feelings still there after all this time then do what your heart says..
2007-09-24 12:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by nextelfan25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your spouses know what you're talking about? If so, they must have incredible faith in both of you. It'd be a shame to ruin their trust over an old what-if. Don't try to turn "fate" into the everyday ups and downs of a long-term relationship unless what you have isn't working, and don't go putting unnecessary pressure on a working one.
2007-09-24 16:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You describe your marriage as "9 hard years". It doesn't sound to me like you love your husband. And maybe he doesn't deserve love, I don't know. But if you are miserable in your marriage, then you owe it to yourself to get out. Regardless of what happens with this other guy. No, I don't believe in fate, personally. I believe this guy is taking you for a ride, stringing you along emotionally, and before long the two of you WILL be in bed together. If he truly loves you, then he will divorce his wife and you two can be together properly. But right now, the thing you have to determine is whether you are going to stay in your own marriage for who knows how many more "hard years".
2007-09-24 16:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to really sit down and think about why both of you did not marry each other nine years ago. My husband and I were friends for years and lost touch when I broke his heart. after a few years we got back together and it was odd how every relationship we had never compared, we never got married, not even engaged to anyone else. that's how I knew we were meant for each other. If you two are truly unhappy with your current mates and need each other then go for it. but think about why you were not together over these years. it may only be lust still chasing after both of you. or maybe you are a little bored in your current marriages and this is exciting for the moment. Good luck.
2007-09-24 16:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
only you can decide what you need to do! we can't decide for you! but yes it's possible to love 2 people at once. I love my husband so much, but I also fell in love with a good friend that is in prison for a very long time(hubby and I were not married at this tiem). it is a differant kind of love and I will never have a chance to be with the one in jail nor would i leave my husband for him. but the feelings are there and i think of him everyday however I cannot disrupt my life and my childrens lives so i stopped talking to him but he never leaves my thoughts!
2007-09-24 16:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Durty's Wifey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call what your doing fate who are you kidding here us or yourself i feel for your husband.Leave that other guy alone he is a married man and besides all that if you and your old flame was meant to be it would of happened back then.Someone needs to hose you and the other one down because your both in heat. That's all it is!!!
2007-09-24 17:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres such a thing as fate, there are also things such as vows. This crush cared for you so much why isnt he your husband? Either get a divorce or get this other guy out of your head
2007-09-24 16:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by sarah W 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Fate told me to tell you that you are being an idiot.
Fate also says you are being selfish and self-centered.
And that you were fated to get crap from me.
Now let it go because there was a reason you ended it before.
2007-09-24 16:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just forget you reunited...nothing to be gained. you both are married and this is somewthing from the past. stop the conversations so ther eis no more hurt. nothing to be gained except pain
2007-09-24 16:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by Francesca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, it happens all the time...... Just remember, that if you do go for it, you will still be miserable..... sure you'll be happy for the first few years but then, it will be exactly what you have now....
2007-09-24 16:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋