Do you tell your husband if a close friend of his made sexual remarks to you?

Question

My husbands close friend recently told me how aroused he is when he looks at me and then told me he went to the bathroom to "relieve" himself when we were all out together one evening. I basically told him off right then and there but do I tell my husband? I know my husband would freak out and then there will be major tension amongst all the group of friends.

Answer 1

I really think you should tell him, he needs to know what kind of a friend he has. I would punch his lights out for talking like that to my wife. He violated the trust your husband gave him. He is not a friend, he is an as* So if I was you, I tell him, you don't want your husband to keep on treating this guy good, do you? With friends like that, who needs enemies? Any way, good luck, and he you decide not to tell him, at least don't allow that man to go to your house.

Answer 2

Hell yes I would tell him because you can't trust his friend and he really isn't a good friend for your husband. If he can act out this way showing you no respect you can only imagine how he would be capable of setting your husband up to convince him to do you wrong if the chance was there? This does not mean that your husband would act on anything but if your husband parties and drinks with this guy anything could happen because the friend has no decent morals!! I would not care about the major tension among the group of friends .....if they are true friends they would understand that this guy is out of line and thats the bottom line. When a guy has no control and acts out like this he isn't worth a crap to any of the group and no one should have to tollerate him being nasty like that!!! He made the choice to be indecent to you and he owes you an appology....why should you be uncomfortable around him and everybody thinks he is this great and wonderful guy??? You have every right to put him in his place and so does your husband! That was totally wrong out of him and he needs to know that he cannot get away with talking to you like that or any other women in the group that he is around.

Answer 3

As a man i would say dont say anything because u said that u handle it when he spoke to u , NOW!!! the thing is why did he tell u that something he knows or a vibe that yes u are giving off allowed him to tell u that. most men might thing about there friends wife or GF but they will never go there out of respect for there friend so if he went there something is going on with the 3 of you he might know that your husband has a broad on the side or know that u are loose or he could be an *** and if that is the case do not socliaze with him or allow him in your house if u are serious that u let him have it.

Answer 4

Not that any of his friends would be that dumb, I'm sure, even if they thought that about me. But, if one of them was that stupid, I would inform my husband. He's really not the jealous type. In fact one of his friends did tell me that he cheated on me in an attempt to break us up, but then made a pass at me while I was crying on his shoulder. It all seemed a little off to me, so I did some digging and found out it wasn't true. I should have known better. Anyway, despite this guy having done this, my husband still keeps in contact with him. I just told him never to bring him around me again, or I'll break his knee caps.

I'd tell him all the same though. We don't keep stuff like that from each other.

Answer 5

I don't believe you that this happened. There is once chance it could have, and that is if your husband and this man already have a deal to have a threesome with you. If I were you, I would not say anything. You will be accused of causing this man to "come on" to you, or worse, you probably mis interpreted a friendly remark and cause a rift between friends. Women are always doing this, creating problems and fights when there is no real threat. Grow Up!

Answer 6

Yes, you should tell your husband. Not only should you be honest with your partner, but this would also nip in the bud anything else that could further his friends advancements toward you.
The friend is also disrespecting your husband and your man has the right to know.
If your best friend told your husband she went in the bathroom and fingered herself over him wouldn't you want to know?
That's really over the line.

Answer 7

Well, seeing as how you weren't amused or flattered by the remarks, then yes. I would tell your husband. ANY man that hits on another man's wife should expect to pay the consiquences if the remarks aren't appreciated. And seeing as how upset you are over it, the guy must be an IDIOT for thinking you'd be amused by his comments.

Now in my own defense, I am always VERY flirty with my wife's friends. When they want me to watch the kids so they can have their little tupperware parties and stuff, I often joke with them about doing something extra special for me in return. Wink wink! But they always know I'm kidding and I am not vulgar about it. Of course if they decided to actually take me up on it? Well now that's another story all together! he he he!

Answer 8

I agree with a lalt13, big problems if he finds out from someone else because if he has done it with you he has likely done it with another one of the women in the group and sooner or later it is gonna come out and it could be taken by your husband that you liked the attention. I would tell him.

Answer 9

This very thing happened to me. I DIDN"T tell my husband and he found out anyway. Big mistake!! It caused a lot of tension in our marriage and that was over a year ago. Better to come from you and not someone else.

Answer 10

First of all if this man was your husbands closet friend thanhe should have not been saying anything toyou at all. i wouldnt give a dam i would tell him so that he could put him in his place okay.if he tried it with you he will try it with someone else. to.

best of luck