At 16 I became pregnant with my first child, shortly after that I married the father. Now I dont know what to do because I have four children and I want to leave my husband but I have no family ,no freinds, no job, or money, no education and no car. I have no where to go and no way to support myself let alone my children,but I have to get out of this relationship.Any suggestions?
2007-09-24 08:25:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Four kids since 16. No family, no friends, no money, no job, no education, no car, no place to go and no means of self support.
Nice...real nice. Let me ask you this. How many times were you told not to have the child at 16? Not to marry young? You my dear are in one helluva mess and there is no way feasable you can come out of this looking good or living comfortably.
I'm sorry but your life pretty much looks to be set for the rest of your days unless some miracle happens. And we all know miracles don't occur.
Sorry. this is why people who think responsibly plan ahead.
2007-09-24 08:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah dont leave, put up with it until u can get a better situation for yourself, stop having babies, get a job, even if its only part time, save money for a car, get on ur feet then leave when u've got the capabilities.. there are no free rides, even at 16 u knew between right and wrong and u definately knew what caused babies, u made ur bed now lay in it.., atleast long enough to where u can figure out a way out and if that means u have to wait, then u have to wait, thats life, u should of thought about all this before u had baby number 2, 3 and 4.. but they now need a mom, and not someone that runs away from their problems when life gets tuff.
2007-09-24 15:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! That is no good. Why do you want out of the relationship already? My question to you would be, why in the world would you have four kids knowing that you couldn't support yourself and them? That's neither here nor there now. You should go to where your parents/family is for support, go to school, and work as much as you can to earn your keep, then move out on your own with your degree from school. You can even do the school online now. I feel bad that you're in this situation... Isn't there anyway to work things out with your husband, even temporary?
2007-09-24 15:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Suggestions? Yes. Get an education, a good job, and a car. After all of that you're sure to have made some friends. Then, move out.
2007-09-24 15:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah - stay in the marriage while you go to school and get a degree using the money in the marriage to pay for it. then, in time you will make friends, you will be able to get a job, and you can make some money and get a car and drive you and your 4 kids away. other than that, you've left yourself zero "likeable" options. get your education so you can support yourself and you don't have to depend on anyone. it will be tough, but the journey will only make you stronger.
2007-09-24 15:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, You got some pretty harsh feedback there. I would find a women's shelter is he is abusing you. and if he isn't then try to stick it out until you can afford to leave on your own. I wish you all the luck in the world. Do you have any family???
2007-09-24 15:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by baylees 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try getting a job and saving some money then get out you can do it I was in the same position at one point in my life 17 had a kid married the father and was living a miserable life got a good job got out and am now with the man of my dreams
2007-09-24 15:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop looking for somewhere to run to and make a way for yourself. Starting taking care of yourself and the kids and then you can start thinking about leaving. As long as you are going to rely on him, you will never be able to leave. Good Luck!
2007-09-24 15:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by cuddleyleo2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to get your GED first and You obviously have access to the Internet so then you can find a job. You can only take it one step at a time. But you are going to have to work hard at it it won't happen overnight . it will take many steps to get where you want to be.
2007-09-24 15:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is abusive in anyway you can go to a safe home.They will help you get a place of your own and also help keep him away.If not then your best bet is to go ahead and get your GED and a job.Save up as much as you can in a separate checking account,and leave as soon as you can.Good Luck,and God Bless.
2007-09-24 15:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋