After a lonely marriage of 7 years, I got back out into the dating game just recently. Saw the girl of my dreams, got to know her some and asked her out. She said yes. This weekend we were having a ball...until she told me she's still got a thing for an 18 year old guy she once kissed in a nightclub. She thinks he's sweet and cool...but doesn't realize that he's doing every girl he comes across. Should I tell her this and risk losing her anyway? Should I dump her or keep her?
2007-09-24 08:25:08 · 49 answers · asked by samrinoma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dump
2007-09-24 08:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
it quite is it a ten year difference or a 20 year difference (i.e, you suggested 28/18 and 40 8/28). She's criminal, yet you will quickly locate out which you quite don't have something in undemanding and there'll easily be moments once you already know she's 10/twenty years your junior.
2016-11-06 06:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that if you tell her about this other bloke (which would be inadvisable anyway, considering you don't appear to have any solid proof as to his antics) you will end up hurting two people. She will not thank you for pointing out the flaws of this man and you run the risk of being accused of jealousy. If she doesn't feel that you can respect her feelings, you run the risk of being cut slowly away from her. If she genuinely has a thing for another man, you only hurt yourself by hanging around waiting for her to notice your feelings for her.
I once thought I was in love with the boyfriend of one of my best friends but he made it patently obvious that he wasn't interested in me that way, and backing off was the best thing I ever did. I preserved a precious friendship and also found real love in someone I hadn't expected it from :)
I really think that your best policy here is to back off and save yourself the inevitable heartache of unrequited love.
2007-09-24 10:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rewind....think....do you not believe that any woman of her age prepared to seduce a child of 18 might just not have all her marbles? I think you may be a little physically overhappy right now and your other brain aint working hard enough...Some people are just made to be passed by - I think this one should be like a fisherman's tale - the one that got away! Sorry, I know this isn't what you wanted to hear. She would be mad to pass up your offer for a mere boy...
2007-09-24 10:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 years old and would never ever hook up with an 18 year old and obsess over him. She doesn't sound like a mature adult. You've just been burnt by your ex wife why would you put yourself in another bad situation? There are plenty of fish in the sea don't settle for a guppie
2007-09-24 08:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Alissa 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like an immature person who isn't ready for a mature man, but a little boy instead!
You could tell her that you know that he's a womanizing slime pig of a guy and have proof.
Or you can dump her and find you a woman, not a girl who blind about things like that.
2007-09-24 08:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by whynotme_ldh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump her!She sounds like those women teachers that like to be with younger guys who are almost 1/2 their age!She sounds like shes got a lot of growing up to do!
2007-09-24 08:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, if she likes you for you, you wont lose her by telling her, but do you really want someone who'r rather be with someone else? I know its difficult, been in the same situation myself, i'm a great believer in fate.... what will be will be, one thing though, you havent got anything to lose by telling her....if she's hooked on him anyway? Might aswell take the chance.... I think ive just havered a load of nonsense here... but I hope my nonsense helps xx
2007-09-24 08:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by linda o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married to this girl and soon after she runs off with this blokethink back to when you wrote this question !!
a 28 y/o falling for an 18 y/o .....i know age doesnt matter but it sounds like shes clinging on to her youth.
Personally id get rid mate !!
2007-09-25 00:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mark T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is hooked on the 18 yr, old, she won't listen to what you have to say about him, I suggest you find someone else who will appreciate you and let her find out for herself, what the 18 yr. old is up to! Some people just have to learn the hard way!
2007-09-24 08:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any 28 year old woman who wants to go after an 18 year old boy has problems. Find someone who's more mature and who can appreciate you and you alone.
2007-09-24 08:29:50 · answer #11 · answered by MS 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋