Right now I'm in the process of throwing a Baby Shower together for my younger Sister-In-Law with the help of her Family. Which brings up the question, does each pregnancy deserve a Baby Shower or is it only with the 1st Baby? My other older Sister-In-Law says I'm out of luck because she says people don't throw Baby Showers for the 2nd Baby because the second Baby isn't a big deal. I, however, disagree. I think that each baby is a blessing and deserves the proper celebration like any other. Is my Sister-In-Law just being spiteful and jealous because she was only able to have one or does what she say hold some truth. Please advise. Thank you!!!
2007-09-24 08:21:47 · 22 answers · asked by Yahoo Anwers 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
there should be a baby shower for every birth!
only having a shower for the first child, would be like only throwing bday partys for the first child....every baby is special, and that needs to be celebrated!
also, mommys need new things too...diapers, baby clothes, mommy stuff
2007-09-24 09:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally you don't throw a baby shower for the second baby, not because the second baby is no big deal, but because theoretically you have everything you need for a baby and you don't need to be "showered" with gifts. But lots of people now will throw a shower for the second or third child. Especially if the baby is a different gender, or if it has been several years between babies and you don't have all the big items any more. I know a lot of people who will have "diaper showers" and the main gift is diapers. Because if they have already had one shower they already have a crib, high chair, stroller, etc. But the first baby isn't the only baby that is a big deal and lots of people want to celebrate their new arrivals.
2007-09-24 08:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a baby shower? They're fun! There's cake! Presents for the new (again) mom and baby! The mom probably won't need the basic things if she saved them from the first baby but maybe a couple of new outfits/ toys. It should just be about fun to celebrate the coming of the new baby. If anything it could just be something fun to do on the weekend. Do what YOU want- if the sister in law doesn't want to come then don't cancel the party just for her.
2007-09-24 08:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by jose migel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think like you do. Every baby deserves the proper celebration. Does not matter if it's the first second or third. It's still part of the family and the parents need help as well. Your SIL is just being rude in my opinion. My family celebrates every single baby on the way. Have fun planning the shower you will feel good about it in the end!
2007-09-24 08:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Adri 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that every baby deserves a baby shower. You throw the shower to celebrate the mom & the new life she is carrying inside of her. I know a woman that is pregnant with her fifth child, and she just had a baby shower.
Plus a shower is a good way for the parents to receive baby items that they may not be able to splurge on.
My vote is to throw your sister-in-law a baby shower!
2007-09-24 08:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by leslie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby Showers are a gift in their selves. If someone wants to throw you one, who cares which baby it is. A shower for the first baby only is old school and like someone already said...is because you theoretically have all the biggie items. Another thought for a theme is foods. Have everyone bring a casserole or something that can be frozen and used after the baby is born.
2007-09-24 08:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by moongoddess209 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....most people I've talked to agree that having 1 shower is considered proper "etiquette" unless the second child is years apart. However, it is ok to have a "second baby" lunch-in or tea-party...because you're right, all babies are special. however, I would tell everyone not to bring a gift (if they really really want to they will) because honestly a lot of people (especially older people) will think it's rude that she's having a second shower and expecting gifts again (as if she really expects them).
I, personally, could care less how many showers someone has. I would go to a second-third-fourth baby-shower. But I know that the older ladies in my family would be really offended if they were expected to bring a gift. And if you don't tell them not to, it's the same as expecting them to bring something.
2007-09-24 08:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by AddieMom13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you - EACH baby deserves to be celebrated. I have 3 kids - had showers with each of them. Even if you don't need presents - request no gifts and throw the baby a scrapbooking party or something. It's a time for the mom anyways, so she can slow down, enjoy her friends and family and look forward to the birth of the new baby!
2007-09-24 08:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well usually the baby shower is only thrown for the first baby (this is old school though) now it is up to the person and family I know alot of woman that have had a baby shower for each of their children, like you said each is special and should have a celebration, the second shower might be after the baby is born to make it more of a different kind of celebration.
2007-09-24 08:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Charlotte S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right, each baby does deserve to have a shower and so does the Mommy. Especially, if the first child is still using all of the eqipment that they got in the first shower. By all means make one, and if you check on line, they have some cool games that you can play as well instead of the same old ones.
2007-09-24 08:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by judyrobins14 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I think all babies should be celebrated! I think if you want to have a baby shower for the 2nd, 3rd babies, why not! Especially if the first was a boy, the second is a girl... that sort of thing.
If the mommy-to-be makes a personal choice to not have a shower, that's one thing... but otherwise... celebrate each new little life!!
2007-09-24 08:30:29 · answer #11 · answered by skootcharoo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋