how old were you when you had your 1st child?

Question

i have just turned 20 and i think i might be prego.. im just wondering how old anyone was when they had their 1st child? and how they told their parents and how they reacted?

i think my parents would freak. i dont have a job right now and my boyfriend doesnt make enuff money for the both of us. im trying to find a job but no luck so far.

Answer 1

I'm 19 now, but I'll be 20 when the baby is born. My parents were upset because they feel like I won't finish college, but supportive of my decision.

My fiance is very happy about it!!

Answer 2

I'm 23 years old and about 23 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My husband and I weren't in a much better situation than yours when we found out I was expecting. But we really buckled down and made some changes (new jobs, increased hours, moved back in with parents, etc.) so that we could provide a better future for our baby. You need to sit down with your boyfriend and make a plan of what needs to be accomplished in the next 9 months. As for my parents, they were thrilled (mainly because my mom has really been wanting another grandchild), but most of the rest of the family wasn't really excited. I'm sure they just think we're too young and not stable enough. But having a great job and a mortgage are not the most important things for a new baby. While you do need to be able to support the baby, you really need to be able to love it and give it a good life (which does NOT mean things; that means experiences and memories and relationships). Good luck!!

Answer 3

I was 20, my daughter is now 7.

My parents were fine with it because i had been living on my own for 2 years and have a very good income.

You as a penitential mother should not be looking for a job, but should be making you bf get a well paid job as it will be his responsibility to support you and his child.

At the moment and from what you have said i think your parents might freak out, it really does not sound like your in a position to think about having a child.

You need to know that your man can support a family, both financially and mentally.

Answer 4

First find out for sure if you are pregnant before dropping that bomb. the only way to confirm your pregnancy is by seeing your doctor.

I was 21. My mum wasn't too happy when I told her because she had hoped I would be married and all before I had children. Despite that, she was so supportive and always there for me.
I was alone too. My boyfriend had bailed as soon as I told him. But I just kept working ( I waited tables) and didn't worry about what other family and friends thought. Your biggest concern should be the health and well-being of your baby and yourself at this time.
Good luck with everything- i'm sure everything will work out for you.

Answer 5

well, 20 is better than 15! I was 24 with my first child. I had just graduated from college and had a good career ahead of me.

20 is a bit young especially if you are not married and do not have a job little lone a career in mind. It is much harder to go back to school once you've had a child. people have done it.. but it isn't easy.

everyone's parents are different. I would have to know them to tell you my opinion on what they would say. but I know my mom was excited when I was pregnant at 24. now if I was 20, with no job and a b/f who doen't have a good enough job.....that would be a totally different story.

good luck.

Answer 6

33. We wanted to wait until we were financially secure and ready to raise a child properly. I stay home and it is the best thing I have ever done! Kids are a momentous responsibility and there are so many outside things going on in the world today, it is so important to have a strong family unit and put your child first. In your situation, it will be very rough, but other people have done it and you can too. Just realize that your child and your family are the most important things in your life and don't let outside influences ruin that. You only get one chance as a parent so it is important to do the best you can!

Answer 7

I am 18 and due in 4 1/2 weeks! So excited. But yeah they were disappointed and the baby's father doesn't have a job but I have been babysitting and saving all of what I can... no doubt we won't starve or not have a place to live so life for us is a lot better than most of the people in the world.

Answer 8

i got married when i was 20, and now i am expecting our first im 22, (23 in decem) so ill be 23 when we have our baby. if i was to come home pregnant before i was married i think my parents would have disowned me, only becuz the religion and culture we follow is against pre-martial sex. my husband and i made sure we were finanically stable and paid off our debts (credit cards and stuff). enjoyed our first 2 years of marriage and then decided start a family. now that i am pregnant he wishes we didnt wait this long thats how excited he is :)
good luck :)

Answer 9

i was only 17. my mom wasnt thrilled. but once she got over the shock, she was very supportive and loved her grandson before he was even born. if you do find out you are pregnant, the sooner you tell your parents, the better. because that way they have time to adjust to the idea. being a young mom isnt the worst thing in the world that could happen. my husband and i worked really hard. we were in our own apt by the time we were 19, and now we are working towards owning the home we live in now. its been a struggle but worth it. now that my boys are 9 and 4, im so glad i had them young.

Answer 10

I was 18 when I had my first child. He was born in June and my birthday is in September so I was almost 19.
I gave birth to him one year after I graduated high school.
My boyfriend (now husband) and I had been together for
four years and we were living in our first apartment.


I just turned 28 and I am the mother of three boys
ages 9, 6, and 2. I did want more but my doctor said I can't have any more c-sections. I have big (9 pound) baby boys.