If you become a surrogate mother is it hard to give up the baby?

Answer 1

For most surrogates, no. They may be a little sad that the whole experience is ending (sort of like when you're in a play and for months rehearse, practice, stay up late blocking, perform, get the rush... and then suddenly it's all done), and may be a little sad to realize their relationship with the baby's parents is changing (or ending, depending on what they've all agreed on), and they may even be a bit sad to say goodbye to the baby that lived with them for so long, but it's rare that it's actually difficult for the surrogate to give up the baby.

Usually there's so much pre-screening and focus along the way to make sure that won't be an issue, it's not. The cases that most frequently result (and remember, it's very very VERY rare) in the surrogate changing her mind are when those initial steps are glossed over in the rush to get to "the good stuff" or oddly enough when the intended parents begin to back out.

It's a lot less common than in adoption since the whole pregnancy is planned and gone into with the mindset of intentionally getting pregnant for another person, so it's just a different frame of mind.

Also, many more families are going for a sort of open arrangement these days, where the surrogate will be given updates on the baby, and the parents plan to tell the baby where it came from, and there's a good chance they'll all meet eventually (in some cases, the surrogate even actually becomes considered part of the family, for example, and for some it's just "when the child is old enough..."), so it's not as much of a final thing as the intended parents taking the baby and never looking back (though surrogates should be aware that no matter what they all agreed on beforehand, that IS a possibility, sad as it is to imagine someone breaking that trust).

Answer 2

I do not know from experience but I would assume absolutely!