I've been with a guy 6 years now and he's not ready for marriage. He says when he's ready he'd marry me. He's younger than I am. He just turned 30.
2007-09-24 06:59:37 · 24 answers · asked by just2letuknow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, he's not married, we live together, and he's never been married.
2007-09-24 07:02:53 · update #1
I would set a time limit within yourself. I would give it 1 year from today. If it does not happen, you need to move on. First and foremost, do not mention it again to him. No man wants to be pressured into anything.
Start taking control of your life. If your life is full, this will not bother you as much. Here are some suggestions:
Do not be so available. Make plans to do other things without him.
Take some classes, workshops
Spend more time with your family and/or friends.
I believe that you need to remind him (WITHOUT WORDS) just how important you are to him. Show him that you are an intelligent and interesting person without him.
Just to let you know, I was given this advice 6 months ago. I got engaged 4 months ago!
Good Luck!
2007-09-24 07:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I hate women saying that. First of all, any guy that doesn't want to marry you, is missing out on something special! Secondly, why rush someone into marriage if they plainly tell you that he is not ready?! You are opening the door for terrible things to happen.
A guy at the age of 30 has a lot to learn. If you really think he's ready to give up his freedom at 30, you have much to learn.
My advice to you, if you are ready to get married and must have it now, you need to find a new relationship. But to press someone that is not ready- is making a big mistake. Don't force someone to be with you, because he is going to be cheating or hiding other things from you. No one forced you to be ready, so don't decide that you want to force someone into it. Good luck!
2007-09-24 14:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you waiting around for him to be ready, pop the question if he says no move on. Maybe he won't marry you because if you've stuck around for 6 years without marriage he knows you'll stick around for 6 more.
2007-09-24 14:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes younger then you? that's why?
I dated a guy younger then me, not by much. He asked me to marry him and I denied his proposal for the reason being our relationship wasn't at its best and secondly, I felt because of his age, he didn't really think "marriage" thru enough.
I wasn't sure his feelings were true because of his age. Example: lets rewind back 4 years, I remember having trouble defining feelings, with crushes with caring and meeting the new date...Plus, its kind of scary when you are in the mids of figuring out his along with your feelings being true...Okay, I was scared shi-tless. Come on "what if" it doesn't work, "what if" he finds someone better, "what if" he was just anxious to tie the knot, "what if" he changes his mind, "what if" he feels like he made a huge mistake, "what if" things are not going well? will he stay during the storm? will he run away? Come on, you have think of both sides...
2007-09-24 14:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to marry you ever. He just doesn't want to, and it probably has nothing at all to do with you. If marriage is what you want, move on to someone whose goals are more in line with your own. You've already given him 6 years...that should be more than enough time for him to feel good about your relationship.
2007-09-24 14:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love = Commitment
If someone is not committed then they don't love either. Now lust will do many things love won't but if marriage is involved then commitment will be also.
I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but after six years he may never want to get married. Besides how would you and him getting married benefit him?
2007-09-24 14:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy I've ever known who's said this (to me, or to someone else) has really meant "I'm not ready to marry ... YOU."
And after the girl breaks up with him, he marries someone else.
If you want to get married, give him a deadline, and then move on.
2007-09-24 14:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Diane H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is this book you need to read. It's called "He's Just Not That Into You". It should be required reading for all females. Honey, when he is ready he will marry someone else. Head for the door.
2007-09-24 14:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He can't marry you yet, must complete his I'm Not Ready to Grow Up Seminar and his Fear of Commitment Class.
2007-09-24 14:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by babalu2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a child, or a jerk. Does he think someone better will come along?
If marriage is important to you, you need to consider that he may well never want to marry.
2007-09-24 14:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋