HELP ME! I don't know what else to do.?

Question

there are so may things. i have big lips. which only goet bigger 4 yrs ago. ever since i've felt sooo self conscious. my mother constatnly calls me out on it too. then ppl make rude comments or stare at me funny. i didn't realize that something like that really could affect me this way. sometimes i feel like no one understands or thr ppl who i thought did don't. i'm having thoughts on getting plastic surgery. my bestfriend thinks its not neccessary. but she's not me so she has no idea how TROUBLED i really am. sometimes i feel hopeless and thoughts of killing myself come in my head. telling me to love myself is not working or else i wouldn't complain. i feel as if i'm never gonna get over these feelings. i am always self conscious! i wish i could like me for me completely instead of temporarily. i'm thinking of going to see a therapist. this seems more than just a teenage phase. some days i wanna go crazy on the inside. i see no point in being around

please don't tell me about angelina jolie or anything like that. i really don't feel better. this really bothers me i'm dead serious...

i'm 19 years old

Answer 1

get urself treated by a therapist if you cannot accept it at all.no point in going through all this emotional trauma.there are many things in life that needs to be treated more practically then emotionally....one should accept how he/she looks but if the looks causing so much trouble and you have options then go for it.

Answer 2

Sweetie, I feel for you. I remember the teen years, and how horrible it was to feel unatractive and that everyone else thought that way. I felt fat even though I was about 10 pounds underweight. The best advice that I can give you is to
(1) Talk to your school counselor and she if he or she can meet with you or refer you to a therapist who can. The counselor at school should have names of some free resources, and this might be best if your mother is not supportive of you.
(2) You need to tell your mother, without being angry or screaming, how her words are hurting her. Maybe you can show her this question, because you really articulated the problem extremely well. I think that she will be very surprised at the impact that what she probably regarded as teasing has had on you.
As far as the idea of plastic surgery goes, it isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it is a bad idea for you at this time. Your body is still growing and changing, and you need time for your features to mature and to grow into them before you even consider outside intervention. Also, you are not in the right state of mind to have this type of surgery right now. It may seem like the answer to all of your problems, but the real issue is on the inside, not out. If you had a lip reduction done, you would most likely start to feel badly about another part of your body. You need to work on healing the wounds to your spirit and getting to a place where you feel good about who you are. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

hang on a second...

big lips are amazing. I have big lips and i love them! why do you think people pout or wear lipgloss. It makes there lips look big! Right now we've sorted that.

I used to be exactly like you and really self consious. Ofcourse my family ssaid it was in my head and i was just paranoid. Well i didnt believe them and i knew it was me who looked like a freek. Turned out i was wrong. I was just paranoid.

Plastic surgery is a big commitment and before you go under any surgery i suggest you have a big think about it, talk to people who have done it and talk to a therapist about it if you think this is the answer to your problem.

Different things work for different people to boost their self esteem. Try pampering your self, meeting up with your friends or sometimes exersise makes you feel healthy and happy.

I suggest talking to a therapist if you still feel this way

Answer 4

I'd recommend the therapist.. because with maturity you'll grow into liking yourself... so you just need help dealing with the feelings now.... believe me when I say your perception of yourself will always be a fluid thing... and unless you are over 30 you don't have enough experience in that department to use that to decide if you need plastic surgery or not. (and you said you are a teen).

trust me.. life will change quite a bit in the years to come... you may even grow to love your lips and feel they are your best feature... life is a lot different when you hit your late 20's

Answer 5

If it bothers you that much, see a counselor. However - who is considered one of the most beautiful women in the world? Angelina Jolie. What are her lips? Big.

Answer 6

I would tell anyone that has thoughts of suicide to seek immediate professional help. This is not a laughing matter, I have had five friends throughout my lifetime commit suicide, and I have seen the hurt and pain they have left behind. The fact is you have people that love you, and suicide solves nothing, especially if you believe you have a soul, because your soul is what deals with your pain, so why would killing your body stop your emotional pain? Honestly please seek help through counseling, if you can't afford it, there are hundreds of free suicide hotlines you can call, and plenty of free services out there designed to help you.....suicide is a cop out, anyone can take the easy way out, it takes a really strong person to get out of it.......think about it!

Please visit this site:

http://www.hopeline.com/

Answer 7

The fact your mom calls you out on it prolly makes you feel ashamed becaue of it. You shouldnt have to apologize for who you are. If you want plastic surgery I would wait a while before you make that decision. Your body is still growing into itself and you want to complete all that before you start changing things around. It isnt right your mom gets on you about it that would piss the hell out of me. She should make you feel secure about yourself and your image.

Answer 8

I saw a therapist when I was a teen and it helped. Being a teenager sucks doesn't it? Trust me, it does get better when you get older. Hang in there.