Some of this is brilliant - many fantasies are shared by men and women.Some of these are harrowing, I believe! The thing is, sex to us men (most of us)is all about a physical, visual act, not linked to anything in normal life.Its an escape. Women tend to have more abstract things that turn them on, I have found......and many of these are based around the excitemtent of sex with a stranger, the excitement and attention of being forced or co-erced into sex by a male authority member, the excitemtent of infidelity is a big one - read any erotic novels aimed at women and nearly 100% will have more than one man, many different types, i believe women want a selection for different times in ovulation cycle - a smart guy, a rebel, an arrogant sod, a caring, rich, provider. Men want to just see boobs, if their women provides sex, they will be happy. Women want more, I reckon. Think most infidelity caused by women, as many say, a forceful man persisting with her, doesnt count as cheating!!
2007-09-24 06:27:56 · 7 answers · asked by someguysomewhere 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Thing is, us men are always on heat, cheating only happens when the woman allows it to happen!! In mens sexual literture, infidelity is a less common theme.
2007-09-24 06:30:06 · update #1
Kinz - I would agrue that porn has a wide difference in its forms, and there will be something for every man there. I have never met another man (who had his own self confidence) who was emotional about sex, usually this is down to insecurity so its not his choice. It may be dangerous to think a lot of women enjoy co-ercement, - just read womens porn (books), you will understand. I just think women are naturally less devoted - ok, they go out of there way to care for you, but in their hearts there is a desire to run amock and mate with alpha males! Biologically, this is because once a women has a male protector, her next quest is to find sperm from an alpha male, for the protector to bring up - this is why women naturally go for arrogant men when most fertile, carers when not - This is the thing - its much worse for a women to cheat on a man than vice versa - if she cheats, he brings up some ******** alphas baby, if he cheats, she still has her man, so what! Why cant people see this
2007-09-24 07:46:14 · update #2
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4941950.stm
2007-09-24 07:49:39 · update #3
That were some strange rumblings about things you have no knowledge of: one stereotype after another. WOW! Have you ever had a woman share her fantasies with you personally? Obviously not... So the only experience you have is your own... and you are not that creative at it, sorry to say... FYI, intelligent people make better lovers: they tend to be more creative somehow... Now, no woman is ever dreaming of being raped: we are pretty gentle creatures of the world. If you do, you need to check yourself into a mental facility as soon as possible. Our fantasies are always beautifully arranged, and our fantasy lovers are perfectly handsome. They are usually accomplished at the art of lovemaking and capable to take us away from the world, where you reside.
2007-09-24 17:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is that why more men cheat?
Interesting theory, I guess, but no dice. There have been evolutionists who claimed more men cheat or "play the field", because they need to spread their genes as far and wide as possible.
I'm not sure I buy it, but at least they have a degree, and are experts...you're just some guy. And your biggest mistake is assuming that people who fantasize, really want that in real life. That's not usually the case.
BTW, I find the idea of "having more than one guy" thoroughly repulsive.
And I agree with Kinze that thinking that women WANT to be coerced into sex is very wrongheaded, and very dangerous. I just hope you never act on those thoughts.
2007-09-24 07:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to this. I think too many men, like yourself, are willing to accept the idea that men just "want to see boobs." Don't blame biology for bad behavior or perverted tendencies! It isn't "natural" for men to objectify women.
Yes, I agree, in terms of our culture, women do often want more complicated things sexually. I think your idea that many women want to be co-erced into sex is downright dangerous, though. Some women may want this, but it is often due to an earlier sexual trauma that they are trying to recreate and thus gain control over.
The complicated fantasies women create or read about are often necessary because the men they are with are not willing to UNDERSTAND them sexually, so they must invent all these fantasies to compensate for their lack of sexual satisfaction. I'm sure men that don't want the steretypical sexual experience depicted in porn and in the media also must turn to alternate sources for gratification. Not everyone wants to see fake boobs and gross, creepy guys. That's what the porn industry seems to believe though. This totally discounts women and their sexual desires.
I think the media, the porn industry, and society in general have been brainwashed to believe that male sexuality is one way, and female sexuality is another way. I think it's detrimental to both genders to stereotype. So many men ARE emotional about sex--and many women aren't. Women don't get more attached. Men don't always f#c% and run.
Anyway, I don't think women cheat more. I think men cheat more because magazines, TV shows, and even politicians make it seem "natural" and "normal" for men (and only men) to have a roving eye and wandering hand.
2007-09-24 07:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kinz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe but where I come from men and women never cheat even if the going gets tough. Dont blame all women coz I dont blame all men. There are the bad and the good everywhere.
But if someone cheats that is the end of the line. For infidelity there is no excuse though here is one reason for some of these women....
women have become cheap. they disrespect themselves as well as others. before women respected relationships, now they are willing to divide them. women cause problems in others relationships constantly, they don't understand the meaning of a relationship.
they dress to attract men in "showy" ways. they're ok with sleeping with a man on the first day of meeting him.
i could keep on but thats the basics..................
2007-09-24 06:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
do we? particular, of direction. yet they don't look to be in any respect all like that. :O this is not a delusion to me. A delusion is generally something that doesn't generally ensue. They have been probable subject-loose needs. yet our genuine nasty fantasies lay deep in our minds, and specially circumstances you in basic terms do not prefer to pay attention them :) i'm not getting too plenty into myself, yet my fantasies do not subject love in any respect. edit: analyzing different peoples solutions, perhaps i'm in basic terms different? yet. anybody has their own fantasties for what ever motives. some are notably known, and others very freaky. maximum of them are picked up subconsciously for the period of our lives. some are even in step with studies in formative years. this is why they don't look to be in basic terms related to a minimum of one gender. however there are particular fantasies that have been revealed as extra undemanding to men or female.
2016-11-06 06:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by ritzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex to men is physical. Sex to women is emotional.
That's why men tend to cheat faster that women. Men need a time and a place to have sex. Women need a reason.
2007-09-24 08:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Quite wrong. I'm a man and I want a lot more than just sex.
The things that turn women on vary quite a bit. Though, there are some constants.
2007-09-24 08:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋