What does it mean to be committed to oneself?

Question

Everyone keeps telling me that I am not committed to myself. I don't know what I want in life according to others.

How do you become committed to yourself and why am I having so much trouble doing it?

Answer 1

You need to have confidence in your decisions and stop questioning yourself. You are always looking around the corner for some "mysterious answer" that will guide you in the right direction but the only answer to all of your questions is within yourself.

I assume that you have had people in your life that have never had faith in you, never trusted your decisions and so you have allowed their lack of confidence in you to cause a lack of confidence in yourself - in your own mind.

Do not surround yourself with people who don't have faith in your decision making - - for that matter...if you had more confidence in yourself and what you are doing then they probably would not question your ability at all. You should surround yourself with people who lift you up, encourage you and make you feel better about yourself.

I suggest you read a book called "Embracing Uncertainty" by Susan Jeffers. This is a quote from her:

""The only certainty is that life is uncertain"; "Once you surrender to the fact that you are unable to control the uncertainty, you will, at last, be able to breathe a sigh of relief"; and "A `deep' acceptance that life is uncertain opens the door to a powerful way of living."

This book helped me so much.

Here is a website that you can get the book:

http://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Uncertainty-Breakthrough-Methods-Achieving/dp/0312309554

Answer 2

i means that you are the one calling the shots qand no one else and also that you cant follow what everyone else tells you. and also that aif you say it will be a certain way you have to make it happen and not change cause someone else tells you it'll be better another way!!!
stop asking others what they think and think for yourself!!!