My best friend is dating a guy right now & Friday night his ex-girlfriend came over while she was there. My friend got pissed and left. I called her later on that night after fighting w/ my BF to see where she was & she was upset.
Since she was so upset and didn't know if her guy's ex was still there I took it upon myself to go over there and make sure nothing happened. (I was very drunk at this time BTW) I ended up drinking there and trying to talk to this girl. All I remember is attempting to kick her *** after she called my friend a **** and then trying to talk to her. People told me I took pictures w/ her and that I was "buddy buddy" w/ her??
Now I feel awful. I feel like I cheated on my best friend by being nice to her when all I wanted was to know why she was there in the first place. To see if there was still something going on.
What do I do to show my friend that I still have her back.
P.S. If you're going to leave negative comments - don't comment at all.
2007-09-24 05:42:24 · 3 answers · asked by Niko 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It wasn't just him and her over there - our friends' party there alot. Otherwise I wouldn't have even thought to go over there.
2007-09-24 07:01:38 · update #1
You can have your friend's back through thick and thin without obligating yourself to be "pissy" with everyone your friend happens to not get along with...having her back just means you're not going to allow someone to "steal" on her (sucker punch her) or stand idly by while she gets beaten to a pulp. But being friends doesn't mean you've surrendered your ability to see both sides of an issue, nor does your friend likely expect you to. So relax...it's a non-issue.
2007-09-24 05:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having your friend's back doesn't mean you have to hate everyone she hates or love everyone she loves. It simply means being there and listening to her vent, being supportive, and just truly being a friend.
When it comes to a good friend and her relationship with a guy, though, it is better not to put yourself in the middle of it. Be supportive to her, help her see things more clearly by being the voice of reason, and do things with her that will help to take her mind off things.
I don't think you betrayed your friend. I just don't think it was wise on your part to go over to her bf's house to see if his ex was still there. I think you overstepped. To make matters worse you were drinking. What did you think you were going to do if you got there and she was still there? Throw her out? It's HIS house. He's your BFF's BF.
If I were you, I would apologize to my friend for doing for insinuating myself into a situation that was none of my business without her okay. Then let her know that you are there for her and you are ready to listen to anything she has to say. She may, in fact, be okay with the idea that you went over there for her, but let her tell you that.
Just be a friend.
2007-09-24 13:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by JD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's alright didn't you ever hear...keep your friends close and keep your enemies even closer. You were doing your friend a favor and she shouldn't be mad at all!!!
2007-09-24 12:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋