I'm thinking of running away from home....?

Question

I'm 15 so I'm not old enough to live by myself yet. I'm sick of my mum, she hates me, I suffered from anorexia for three years and still have eating problems, but she tells me to go away and stop being paranoid when I ask for help. I asked her to take me to the doctors and she told me to grow up, this was a long time ago. I used to just accept it and be upset but now I feel sick with her and the things she does, anything would be better than staying with her. I can't go to my dad's, he works all day and would just call my mum if I showed up on his doorstep. I feel that i am old enough to look after myself and live on my own, is there anyway I can do this?

Answer 1

I feel for you I really do Lucy, but whatever you do don't leave home !

I know things are bad for you at the moment but life in the big bad world alone with no friends or money will feel like you have strayed straight into Hell !!

You must try and find someone to confide in even e-mail me if you want to talk or ask advice i'd be more than willing to listen than think of you asleep rough somewhere.

i have two kids myself one an 18yr girl so i know of teenage problems.

Remember you are never alone there will always be someone to listen to you if you look.


Atheist friend.

Answer 2

I agree with those who have already said to talk to a trusted adult. A school councillor, a teacher, or a chuch leader will know how to get you the help that you need. Running away will only make matters worse. Not only will you not get the professional help you need, but you will have no way to provide the basic necessities of life (food, clothing and shelter) for yourself legally. You will end up doing something illegal or terribly regretable just to put food in your stomach. The survival rate for teenagers living on the streets is dismally low. Give yourself a chance and talk to your school councillor.

Speaking as an adult survivor of childhood neglect and abuse, please let me say that what you are going through is not your fault. I'm sure your mother is doing the best that she knows how. She obvioulsy just doesn't KNOW better. This is not your fault. Recognize that she is imperfect, that this is not your fault and that you have the choice whether to remain a victim the rest of your life or if you take responsibility for those things that actually ARE your responsibility and move on with a positive "can-do" attitude. If you cave into destructive behaviors, she wins.

Tell another adult TODAY and start moving forward.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You aren't even old enough to have a drivers license. Do you have a job? With a steady income? Can you afford to pay rent on an apartment? Can you buy your own clothes and food and pay your own bills? Instead of bailing, I think you need to work on the relationship with your mom. I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk together. Not a shouting match, but an honest discussion. Tell her you think you may need some professional help. Admitting that is a good sign that you are growing up. She may think you are just being a hypochondriac.

Answer 4

That's sad Lucy. I wish you didn't have to feel this way about your parents. I wish your parents had more sense to know that you are hurting inside. You're too young to give up on them though. At least wait until you are 18. It is only 3 short years away. Then you can leave with a clean conscience. Don't go doing things wrong just because your parents can't do things right. Ok? You can e-mail me if you ever need other advice. Take care.

Answer 5

Make you own doctors appointment. The doctor will not turn you away. As far as running away don't miss up your life you have school and a couple more years till your 18 or you go off to college. Best of luck and trust me life is hard you just have to stick in there and hang on. Good Luck and Sit and talk to your mom. If she will not listen talk to someone who will.

Answer 6

Your mother sounds like she has problems! She has not been very nice to you at all! Please confide in an adult such as an aunt, uncle, friend's parent, grandma, teacher, police officer, etc. and ask them for some help!

Please do NOT run away. You are too young to support yourself and will only end up doing things you will later regret.

You can try writing your mother a letter in which you express yourself as completely as possible.

There should be hot-lines you can call for advice and assistance. Whatever you do, please don't run away! Perhaps there is someone you can go live with which will be acceptable to your mother!

I hope everything works out well for you! I am sorry you are suffering so!

Answer 7

You really need to talk to your dad, tell him about your eating disorder that you asked your mom for help and she refused to do anything about it.Maybe you can insist on your mom to take you to the doctor and tell her that if she doesnt help you that is actually neglecting the health and care of a child. If something happens to you concerning your eating disorder when it could have been prevented, your mom would have wished that she got you the help you need before you end up in the emergency room. Being anorexic carries alot of health risks, including heart problems.

Answer 8

I don't see how you can do this on your own. Where will you live? How will you finish school? How will you get money to eat & get clothes & the stuff that you need?

Try talking ot your dad about how you feel living with your mother. He might suprise you & let you say with him.

Good Luck, I don't run away, in the long run it will not be the choice of life that you want or deserve!

Answer 9

i feel for you because in the past i also suffered from anorexia for many years and spent 6 months in a eating disorders hospital and had to be tube feed, as well as suffering from severe depression (which i took anti-depressants and had plenty of therapy), self-harmed and tried suicide on 3 different occassions...like you, i didnt want to live with my parents no longer as i believed that i would manage by myself, i was put on house lock down by the mental house service which meant i was not allowed to step outside the house with either of my parents...i carried on getting therapy and started to take in what people were telling and thats when i strated to improve...step by step....i no from my own experience that its easier said then done...but stay put...work with your mom, in building a relationship and you dont need your mom to make you an appointment with the GP you can make it yourself...things will improve...it just takes time and sometimes lots of it...it took me over 5 and a half years before i could safely say it was well and truly behind me...but you never forget...hang on in there

good luck xx

Answer 10

There are programs in the US set up specifically for young people in situations like yours. I know you're probably elsewhere but here are a couple of web sites that you can contact and they may be able to advise you of someone in your area. Please take advantage of this or the suggestions the others have made.