Have any of you married someone that your parents did not approve of? Or that your parents just couldn't stand? How did you work past that? How are you working past that?
2007-09-24 04:58:15 · 8 answers · asked by mums_the_word 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is no issue with my boyfriend himself, they like him as a person... they just do not approve of our difference in religion...
2007-09-24 05:17:19 · update #1
It normally doesn't last long. Things that are said start to dig at you and you start looking at the person through every ones Else's eyes. The only way it would work is if you moved away and had little contact with family which you might start to resent. It is hard but, can be done if you really love each other....
2007-09-24 05:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've personally been in this situation. Eventually they grew to like my s/o. The only thing is...ya gotta look at the whole picture...according to ya ?... It's not that they don't like him, or that they don't like his religion, but it's that they don't approve of the difference in religion between your self and him. You can't blame them, if you look at it as a whole. What if you end up pregnant with this guy...how will you be able to raise your child together with differant morals or religous beliefs. These are important when raising a child. I would really consider what your parents have to say. Maybe to lighten things up, you and your s/o can sit and discuss how to overcome this difference and can meet in the middle somewhere with it. Once you two have figured out what religion you can agree to that fits you both then you can work on the parents thing. At least, then you'll have established some foundation to work with and will stand a better chance with the parents...ya dig? Good luck and God bless!!
2007-09-24 12:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly couldn't tell you one way or the other if my parents like my husband or not. And I REALLY don't care. My parents didn't marry him, he didn't marry my parents....so why does it matter? I'm a grown woman, and I can marry whomever I choose.
I have a feeling that my parents don't *approve* of my husband because we are a different race. They've never said anything to me about it, and even if they did, I wouldn't care.
You have to grow up sometime sweetheart...
2007-09-24 12:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem I could see you having is with your religion. IMO, I feel you should be of similar religions. I know with my husband and I, we've had problems... We're both Christian, he is Baptist and I am Lutheran. He didn't want the kids baptized as babies, and we believe they need to be. That was the first thing out pastor talked about before we got married. It was laughed off until it happened....
Then, my husband looked at me and how important it was to me and said that he wouldn't mind, even if he doesn't believe in it, and I do, he can do it just for me. So he gave me my first Mother's day gift, of giving my daughter baptized. I will never forget what he did... all for me.
2007-09-24 12:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i almost married someone my parents didnt approve of and it was terrible because my parents and him would argue and everything. After drinking and smoking for so long, i tried to get him to quit but i couldnt until one day when he got drunk and abused me then one day he slammed the door in my face and he told me to never come back. I tried to get him to quit smoking and drinking but it never worked. so now i have moved on and im in a better relationship and my parents love him. i would say if you dont like your parents then stay with him but if you love your parents to death then leave him and find someone else. if you have any questions, email me at JASMINESMOMMY06@YAHOO.COM.
2007-09-24 12:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents very much disliked my Ex. Yet they accepted him as my choice. They jumped through many hoops to make sure they could handle it All because they love me.It was not until much later that they actively told me this.
Now I am no longer with my ex my mum was very blunt recently on her feelings toward him and I was glad she'd kept her mouth shut.
It made me appreciate my parents even more
2007-09-24 12:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I went and are going through this. His parents hate me, always have. They have nothing to do with their grandchildren either. For a few years into our marriage, he tried to get them to accept me(thankfully they live 11,000 miles away) but after he saw how they were even to their own grand babies, he basically told them to forget he is alive. Sad, but basically their doing. We have been happily married now for almost 12 years.
2007-09-24 12:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister married this guy that no one in my family liked, but since he made her happy we tolerate him as best we can. He is always invited to family functions, even though we don't like him we look past it and tolerate him so my sister doesn't move away and disconnect herself from us.
2007-09-24 12:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋