I dated this guy whose parents were swingers. After many years of practising that lifestyle they divorced. The guy was very nice at first and all that , but he started acting strange .He kept saying that his family was weird and one thing after the other he wanted to have time alone. As naive as it sounds I didn't even know what swinging was, but for people that are out there could you please explain the psychological issues on their kids. Thank you
2007-09-24 04:54:32 · 4 answers · asked by seagull 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I guess there could be effects on your children if you were open about your sex life with them, but why would you tell your kids anything about your sex life whether you are a swinger or not?
Second, you don't know why his parents got divorced. The divorce rate today is about 50%, and yet only 1% or less of the population is swingers, so there is a very good chance that swinging had nothing to do with their divorce and other things did.
It sounds to me like he wanted to break-up with you and was using anything to support the old let-down "it's not you, it's me." His parents being swingers had nothing to do with it.
2007-09-24 09:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think his behavior can be attributed to his parents lifestyle. I think he just wasn't that into you, and couldn't find a way to just say it.
There has been no formal studies about swinging and it's effect on children. Lots of people will conjecture but there is no hard numbers nor evidence that it is a positive or negative influence.
I'm very surprised that he knew about his parents activities as a child. Most parents like to keep their sexual lives private from their children. (both swingers and non-swingers) I know for damn sure my parents did not parade around their sexual practices.
2007-09-24 05:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would appear in my research and talks with a lifestyle coach I found that it can create issues with children. I guess somethings are best kept behind closed doors if you know what I mean.
2007-09-25 02:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by StarchIT 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most swingers I've known, didn't tell their kids (it's not their business anyway) so there should be no need for it to affect the kids...those that do discuss it with their children (in an age appropriate manner I would hope) may just help their kids to be open minded about sex when they get to an age to participate, as well as to understand the difference in sex for recreation, procreation, or expression of love/affection.
2007-09-24 04:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋