my husband is slowly dieing each and every day due to several different affications any one of which is terminal and I am powerless to do anything to stop it....he is fighting very hard to stay alive and with me and is suffering so much from the painand all I can do is sit back and watch him slip away from me more and more each and every day......this is not fair!
2007-09-24 04:43:21 · 16 answers · asked by mary's heaven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF GOD BRINGS YOU TO IT HE WILL BRING YOU THROUGH IT.
Happy moments, praise God
Difficult moments, seek God
Quiet moments, worship God
Painful moments,trust God
Every moment, thank God...
2007-09-24 05:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow I am sooo sorry to hear about your husband. I could only imagine how you must feel. If my husband and I were to be in that situation i don't know what i would do. It would probably kill me inside. Just know that everything will be ok, your husband will always be with you no matter what whether you can see him or not and one day you two will be together again.
Seems to me like your husband is holding on for one thing and one thing only, YOU! You need to reassure him that everything will be ok, you will be ok and he could let go. Tell him you will never forget what the two of you had and make sure he knows just how much you love him
When your husband passes on always remember he is not fully dead, the memories you two shared will keep his spirit alive in your heart until it comes your time to pass on.
Your husband will be moving on to a better place where he can watch over you until you two can be together again.
I wish i could help more but there is nothing nobody could do to take the pain away just know that within time it will start getting better, again I am so, so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. Your right, it's not fair, but this is how life must be. There are millions and millions of other people going through the same thing. You are not alone.
Have you thought about going to a grief councelor or a group? That may be a good idea, that way you will have people to talk to that are going through the same thing.
You and your husband are in my thought.
((((((HUGS))))))
2007-09-24 12:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't enough words to express the feelings you are going through now. To loose someone so close to you is one of the hardest things a human been can experience. But the one thing that make us feel a little bit better about the whole thing, is to know that we did everything in our power to make them feel loved, and to remember and Cherish those moments for the rest of our lives. You have to live every minute you have left with him, to the fullest. Always telling him how much you love him, and how you will miss him for years to come. But above all let him know that it is okay to let go, that he doesn't have to endure so much pain. That he is free to be at peace, that God will take care of him, and that you will be fine despite your sorrow. Tell him that he doesn't need to fight it any more, that he has already given you everything you ever wanted in life, and that it is time for him to stop suffering. The memories that you will have from when you guys were together will give you the peace you need to go through this pain, knowing that you loved each other. Might the Lord give you the strength you need and comfort your anxiety and your loneliness. God bless you, our prays are with you.
2007-09-24 13:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is difficult. Anytime we lose someone it is difficult. But try to hang on to every moment he's here with you as one more moment you have with him. Focus on all of the wonderful things you've done together, etc. He will stress more if he senses you are stressed about it. He knows anyway. I wish I could do something for you, but I know that no one can. All I can say is that I believe people are put in our lives to teach us lessons. Some are good, and some are bad. But no matter whether this life separates you or not, it still cannot separate your spirits from one another, nor erase the wonderful memories...so as long as you are alive, he will still be with you. We all have our turn in the circle of life. My deepest condolences to you. I know you're hurting. You will be okay with time. I promise.
2007-09-24 12:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one ever said life was. We're all dealt a lousy hand in life. Yours is nothing new and unfortuantely its fallen into your lap.
Life is precious. Remember this.....hearing is the very last thing to go. Keep talking right up until the time he dies. He'll hear you. You're a good wife to be there and care for him. Its just a horrible thing to have to see the one you love die. There's no explanation for it. Not God or anyone else. We all have the risk of going before our times.
I hope that others see your courage and that you subscrice to the 'death do us part' vow.
My heart goes out to you madam and know that you're in my thoughts. You've a hard road ahead. I suspect you'll do fine. Its clear you have the strength and fortitude to survive.
2007-09-24 11:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cherish every moment as if it is your last. Let him know that he is the light of your life and what he means to you. Spend every moment together and love him with all you have. The greatest thing you can do is be there for him and love him. I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss. He will always be in your heart and will live on through every precious memory the two of you made together, know that and tell him. God bless.
2007-09-24 11:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Gretta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was diagnosed with cancer which was a huge wake up sign for me to acknowledge and cherish every moment.
It makes you forget the stupid things you used to focus on and makes you realise how much you love them. At the same time you dont want to lose them.
Be strong enjoy what you have left and also try to be strong enough to let him know you love him and he can move on and let him free.
I am so sorry you have to lose someone so precious to your heart and my thoughts are with you.
2007-09-24 11:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mary's Heaven
He just don't want to leave you alone. Mary you need to tell him that it will be okay to leave and end his suffering. Reassure him that it a better place that awaits him. I know its painful to see him so much pain. I can't image what you are going through, but my heart goes out to you and your family. Just pray to the heavenly father to give you guidance and serenity to endure your situation with your husband. I will pray for you and your family.
2007-09-24 12:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i feel for u............... its hard to hold on, but even harder to let go.
he has to go, honey, hes still here for u, he feels ur not ready to see him on his way.
talk to him, let him know u will be ok, yes, u will cry but in time u will learn to live with out him. yet he will always be there in spirit.
i know its not fair, but if u think about it , Death is the only one that is fair to all of us, he takes kids, husbands, wives, dads and moms, etc. he does not discriminate. it wont care if we are rich , poor, white or black. cristian or catholic. it will take us all.
i know this has nothing to do with ur pain , but its does give u hope. u will be with him once, more, it may not be tomorrow but u will be someday.
i really wish u peace and comfort. he will be ok, honey u need to let go.
i will pray for both of u.
2007-09-24 11:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for you and you ae very strong to be able to keep your head up during somethinglike this...jsut make him comfortable..and let him know that even though you aren't ready for himto go that it's ok for him to. that he doesnt deserve to hurt anymore and let him nkow that you will beok because he needs to hear that...and that you will be with him again soon. god bless you two.
2007-09-24 11:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by xolaunicaox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋