Let me explain a bit here... I am going through alot now in my life. I have not been able to find employment in almost a year, and I am 47 years old with a wife and daughter whom I love very much! But, everything I seem to do, or anything that happens to me, even the smallest things, right now really set me off!! And its not that I hit my wife or daughter.. NEVER! But because I am so frustrated about the lack of direction in my life, I snap at them when I know that I should not be! Any and all advice is very welcomed! Thanks...
2007-09-24 04:38:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Live from confidence, rather than fear. What we put our attention on multiplies in our lives. You appear to be putting attention on the lack, rather than the obtaining of what you want. Shift the focus of your attention to what you want rather than what you don't want. Set goals in each area of your life, prioritizing 1-10, then formulate a statement of that goal in the positive present tense, such as, "I am now gainfully employed in a position that allows me to use my skills in an enjoyable and rewarding way." That's my example, come up with your own statements.
Anger is simply the result of your attempt to control outer events that seem beyond your control. Shift the focus from trying to control results "out there" to totally and completely controlling your inner experience. Your outer experience will grow out of your inner experience. It also helps immensely to have priorities in order, i.e. my path to God is at the top of my priorities. If you have a belief in God, be confident that God will take care of all your needs if you do your part and put in your best effort. Live from confidence, rather than fear. May the Blessings Be
2007-09-24 05:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I congratulate you -- admitting you have a problem is the first step in solving it. I recommend the "apologize immediately" technique. It is exactly what it sounds like. Every single time you realize that you have snapped at one of them, immediately soften your tone of voice, and sincerely say that you are sorry. Sincerity is key! What will happen will be that you will start recognizing that you snapped at them earlier and earlier. Finally, most likely after a week to 10 days, because you are mentally noticing your behavior, you will reach a point at which you catch yourself just *about* to snap, and then stop yourself. When you reach this point, take a couple of deep breaths, count to ten, and then answer calmly, civilly, and politely. You can change yourself using this technique if you stick to it and really apply yourself.
2007-09-24 04:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had really bad anger issues and all I could do was allow the anger outbursts to happen, go somewhere alone and kick and punch a pillow, scream into a pillow, etc etc. Eventually I became less stressed as my life calmed down and now things are a lot more cool again.
2007-09-24 04:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we understand that this upsets u, and its plain wrong to go off on ur family. the good thing is that u know ur doing wrong.
1. go to ur local work source office they always have something for u.
2. get some help for that depression, yes u read right, DEPRESSION, ur going to end up loosing ur family if u dont seek help, fast!
3. always remember that money comes and goes, ur family is what makes u look for a better tomorrow.
4. anger is a bad lil bug that will and can get the best of u, please realize that u have a good life dont let it come to waste.
5. last but not least, ur family will always stick with u, they wont care for luxuries , just as long as they are with u . explain to them that u are trying, and that they are u reason to live. they will understand. im sure they know of what they have as a dad and a husband. and they wont give up on u.
good luck!
2007-09-24 04:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I agree with your first respondent.... you have issues only a counselor can help you deal with. And in the process, find direction for your life. Unfortunately, what a guy does, is who he is, so you are not alone in being angry when you are out of work.,,,most guys are..... If nothing else, you might be thinking of moving to an area where your skills are needed, or retrain. You have 20 years left to work--- or be unemployed, your choice. Get a few sessions of counseling, sweets.
2007-09-24 04:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling and anger management might help. I also snap at a lot of little things in life and often regret it. Try and just live everyday to the fullest and remember to be the nicest to the people that you love and love you in return.
2007-09-24 05:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just take a deep breath and realize that everything is going to be okay in the long run. I got the same problem, and this seems to work for me. Have your wife help you with your anger issues. This does help a lot!
2007-09-24 04:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Dr S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, ANger administration classes in many circumstances is the way for you. I grew up in a school, the position bullying replaced into in many circumstances, i replaced into bullied in kindergarden type of element, at residing house, by utilizing my cousin, and continuously skipped over by utilizing him. i replaced into an indignant youngster, yet i have realized the thanks to relax it. anytime i'm about to strive against someone, i continuously tell myself to relax it, and walk faraway from the region, i will not stand getting hit, and could strive against decrease back no count number the position i'm, because i have been scuffling with provided that youthful. decrease back to the point, i'm no longer very sturdy at it yet, yet i nevertheless attempt, and that i'm a a lot happier dude ever. I also attempt an dreward myself if i quiet down effectively, or pass for a run, or listen some song.
2016-10-20 02:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Locate some anger management groups in the area where you live. There are solid ways to vent your frustrations in other ways than to take them out on the ones you love. Discussion groups made up of people like you are great places to learn how to do this.
2007-09-24 04:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is to look at your wife and daughter as your two biggest supporters. It is not uncommon to lash out at the people who are physically closest to you when you are upset, but it is wrong and hurtful to the most important people in your life.
Instead of considering your issues as yours alone, consider them as just as much issues that your wife and daughter are dealing with. They are in this with you.
Rather than lashing out at them, tell them about your frustrations and woes and include them in your efforts to fix the issues. In the end, your family will be closer and you will feel a lot better.
Best of luck at getting work.
Take care,
Troy
2007-09-24 05:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋