My fiance' & I argue about the air conditioner...anyone else have this problem?

Question

We been living together for a year and we get along great except for the temperature. We have always disagreed about it but it's started to really bother me. 1st of all I thought we should leave it on 72 all the time but that was too cool for him so we decided on 74. So I never messed w/it until I would get so hot & when I would look at the temp it would be on 80!!! Anytime he gets chilly he turns it to 80. He only wears shorts, no shirt, socks, etc. I wear a pair of shorts & a tee shirt (I don't want to walk around naked). I tell him if he is cold, put some more clothes on, he tells me to take some off. We never really "argue" about it, when I am hot, I turn it back on and he doesn't complain, he only says I am freezing him.Like last night, I went to shower & iron my clothes & he turned it to 80....well I turned it to 70 & told him I was hot ironing and stuff & told him that's why our power bill is so outrageous the way he turns it up & down. What can we do to fix this? THANKS!

Also, this is the only thing we disagree about...really it is. We don't argue about the bills, money, jealousy..nothing. We get along fine except this one thing. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Better to just let it be.

There is many things that bother me about my hubby.. but I just do my thing and forget it. so it's extra work,or extra money to have to pay out.. so be it and just continue as is without saying a thing about it..

no sense in fighting about it.

it bothers me when he puts the tea towel on the lower cupboard doors and it falls off onto a dog hair infested floor.
I just don't say a word and put it in the wash.
it bothers me when he eats in the middle of the night and leave waste laying around from opened bags etc. no sense in saying anything about it.. I just clean it up.
When he turns the heat down.. I turn around and turn it up..

keep the peace.. just do as you wish and not talk about it.

Answer 2

If your fiances is putting the a/c on 80 there is something wrong with him and should go to the doctors and have a physcial done. 80degrees is much to hot for a room. Keeping the a/c at 75 should be comfortable temp in the room. Yes it does hot when your ironing but let me suggest having a fan directly on you when your ironing vs the ac. It definelty can get expensive having the iron and the ac on at the same time.

Answer 3

My fiance' and I have the same issue, I get cold easily and he stays hot. I can put on more close, he can't take more off. You definately need to address it, maybe talk about putting up a lock box, setting the temp at 74 and leaving it. If he's cold he needs to put on clothes, if your hot, turn on a fan but there has to be a happy medium.

Answer 4

My husband and I went through this... Especially when I was pregnant... I so comprimise... I got him a little floor heater for his feet. It is like $15.00 at WalMart and it has got him to let me keep it down when I want. That way we both are happy.

I also put it this way... I'm the one doing the house work, and doing things with the kids... Very active and I get hot. He sits at his computer, so he gets cold. I like it at 72, he wants it higher. I got him the heater and told him that if he is cold, put that by him and we're both happy. And it has worked! Instead of thinking about a temp., try something else, like a little heater.

Answer 5

I've been married for years and we have the same problem only it's not consistent like yours- one of us will turn it up the other down and vice versa at different times. The only thing I can suggest is that you sit down and talk about this because it will continue for the rest of your lives together. Agree to keep it at a median temp. and truly keep it there. Put a post-it on the control to remind both of you not to touch it. Good luck.

Answer 6

I've been through this with my wife of twenty-mother-jumping-three-years. I like a/c to keep things about 68-70 and just enough to keep the humidity out of the air.
My wife on the other hand likes to keep the house so cold you can hang meat in the livingroom.
There is no happy meidum between you two. Just toss on a sweatshirt. Its silly to quibble over something as inconsequential as this. Still....good for you if all there is to debate about is the relative air temperture.

Answer 7

Having been married for 21 years, I know from experience exactly how to deal with issues like this, and therefore with this specific issue. My advice: shut up about it, both of you. Keep doing what you're doing, but quit complaining. And that's it, seriously. No deep-rooted psychological insight needed. Spending a couple extra bucks a month on your electricity bill is a small price to pay for household peace.

Answer 8

He is being inconsiderate. Divorce him today!

No , not really.

I would let him know that there is NO EXCUSE for him to subject you to heat while he is walking around in shorts. Put on some pants and a sweater. That is of course unless he wants to be an inconsiderate lout who is not concerned with your comfort.

It is a bit rare for you to be the hot one though.

In our house I like my rec room at 63 in the winter while she keeps liv room at 72. Teach him to knit. Nothing will warm him up quite like that wool blanket on his lap.....
works for us........LOL

Answer 9

Wow if that's is all you argue about your in good shape. Put a lock box on it maybe the you of you really need to talk more about this problem.

Answer 10

Haha, i have this prob too, im always cold he's always hot. We don't really fight about it, but i sleep extra blamkets and layers when he's around ,lol.