how do i get him to let me in?

Question

this guy im sort of into, we talk all the time, but mostly online. we are really close and know everything about eachother, but there is this whole side of him which he refers to as this 'barrier'.

This stuff he feels he cant talk about. People outside school he will talk about it with, but he feels that he cant trust people in school for some reason.
I dont keep on at him about it, I know that won't help. All I can think to do is just keep being friends with him and being there for him.
He says that maybe eventually I'll take it down brick by brick, but I was wondering if I was going about it right and if theres anything else I can do?

Answer 1

Hello

What do want with him is that were the world came to end
Stop look around the best is still out there.


Thanks Awie

Answer 2

there are many things that I cannot share with my friends, you never know when a person may let it slip and it's headline news to the entire school.

Just be his close friends. You don't have to do that by talking about his problem, there's so many other stuff to talk about.

I'm in love with this girl and we usually only chat online. We never really talk about my own problems, sometimes she does share her own and I'm glad to listen, but there's a part of me that stop me from sharing my own problem, because I'm afraid it might push her away from me if she see this screw up side of me.

All I'm saying is that he have his own reason to not share certain things, and it doesn't mean that he doesn't trust you. Who knows, maybe he didn't want to lose you, maybe he felt your friendship isn't close enough yet for him to share those problems without jeopardizing this friendship.

It's just my opinion, but I'd suggest that you be his close friend and continue to build on this friendship. Make him know that he's not your just anotther online friend, that you see him more than a close friend.

ps: I siad that because in my own situation, I wish I could be her best friend, coz long as I stay her just another online friend, I can never take my feeling for her any further, and that's what I am, and I couldn't bring it further than friendship, at least not for now