their kids if the kids know they won't get a beat down or a backhand?? kid mentality is about avoiding PHYSICAL punishment. they never care about what they do only that they got caught which is why their apologies are meaningless. once you give them a yard they take a mile. it's this liberal mentality that is to blame for the state of kids today. my sis and and I grew up old school and it's why we didn't do anything out of line. we got the backhand when we DESERVED it and we knew we did. it's not abuse it's DISCIPLINE. what do the rest of you think??
2007-09-24 03:44:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is a line between discipline and abuse. I should know, I was abused plenty as a child. While I don't condone beating a child senseless as was done to me, I do believe the punishment should crime, so to speak. And I don't feel parents should tie their own hands as to the type of discipline in this respect to employ. It does send the message to kids that if the kid is willing to accept any other punishment, then it's worth doing the deed.
Parents are far too lenient when it comes to discipline at times, and then the rest of society suffers for it. While kids should always be explained to as to why what they did was wrong and why they are being punished in the manner they are, the punishment should not be limited within reason and should be exacted similarly each and every time without alteration.
BTW The people who think they have reared nice and obedient children had best look closer. I've known plenty of these children who have had this type of background concerning discipline. They will put on a good front while getting into some nasty and dangerous things, all the while depending on the fact they appear to be good little boys and girls to keep the eyes off of them and their misdeeds.
Oh, and are those who see their children beating up on another child or coming at them with a knife really not going to smack their kid at the very least? Do they really feel saying, "Now, now Justin, don't do that, it isn't nice, mommy will have to give you a time out should you continue", is the better approach? In my opinion, they'd have to be rather naive or moronic to believe so. Frankly, whenever I see that type of person in horror films attempting to calmly reason with the killer I sadly laugh at them.
2007-09-24 03:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was strapped with a leather belt on the bare backside as a child and i swore i would NEVER bestow that upon my children. I don't believe that corporal punishment is a way to raise your kids. Let them learn from their choices, if they make a bad choice, there will be consequences. There is always a bargaining tool. If the kids don't abide by the rules you have set out in your household, then you remove the privileges....no phone, no outings, no privileges.....i have kept that as a rule and my children know that the choices they make will impact their freedom and ability to have outings and other activities that they enjoy on a regular basis. As long as you remain consistent with this form of punishment, they will eventually get the message
2007-09-24 10:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some kids don't need a spanking, believe it or not. Yet, too many parents are WIMPS when it comes to disciplining their children. The problem today is not the wild, screaming, fit-throwing, cursing child. It is the parents who let them behave that way!!!! I think parents need a spanking! ha!
Actually, BEATING a child is WRONG, but hey---even the Bible says that spanking a child is okay. But, we are never to spank in anger, for then it is too hard. Just enough to correct them, and show them we mean business. Backhanding them is abusive. Whipping them is abusive. An adult needs to seperate what is abusive, and what is loving correction.
2007-09-24 10:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To physically strike a child is abuse...regardless of what you call it. There is no justification for it. If you hit a child, you teach that child that hitting is the right way to make your point or correct someone else's misbehavior.
I raised three children and never once used corporal punishment. I spoke to them in reasoned tones, occasionally raised my voice, but always let them know that their behavior was what was wrong, not them. I would use "time outs" and restrict priveledges until the behavior I wanted was achieved. I was often told that I had the most well-behaved children my friends, family and colleagues ever saw...
2007-09-24 10:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Apparently celebrities are above punishment, and that is passed down to their children.
It's sad...we're raising a generation of children without discipline. I'm not an advocate of beating children, but a quick spanking with "Mr. Spoon" or "Mrs. Spatula" every now and then is highly effective and not at all damaging.
2007-09-24 10:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by gsaquestions 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Which kids are you talking about, Brit/Kfed or their offspring. The children are TOO young to be smacking the parents around(I'm willing to step up for them), since it is the parents in need of discipline here. Brit/Kfed need parenting classes on how to be responsible adults and be good role models to their children.
2007-09-24 10:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should never hit a kid (or an animal). Treat them with respect. The best parents are the ones whose children respect them but dont fear them.
To the person that said spare the rod, spoil the child, another interpretation of the rod is the rod of a shephard leading his sheep. I think it refers to leadership, not beating someone with it.
2007-09-24 10:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
We don't spank in our home, we use time outs, grounding and removal of "benefits" like TV and video games, computer time and dessert. It works for us and we have a very well behaved child. She is respectful of others, has high self esteem, is well behaved in school and at the top of her class.
2007-09-24 10:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by kawm63 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's the uneducated man's discipline. i grew up getting beat for being bad and i had (and still have) zero respect for my mother because of it. i have kids now and i don't hit. i do time out or i "hit" them where it really hurts...unplug the tv and take away toys and computers and books!
2007-09-24 11:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by phlygirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bloody hell . I am a teen and i think it is right that a parent should be able to beat their child.Well not to tthe exteme.Children need some way of getting displine.I think in the bible they say" spare the rod and spoil the child". why should a court telll a parent how to displine there child . they Bloosy wrong.
2007-09-24 10:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by lindsaza 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋