Let us say you are going to marry a girl who is earning three times more than you. It is an arranged marriage, your parents are ready for it, the girls parents are ready for it too. Both you and your would be wife are equally well educated. Its just that you finished your education from a less reputed institute and she did it from an elite one and so comes the difference in salaries. Now it is generally accepted in society (with reference to India) that man should earn more or at least equal to what his wife does. So if I am the guy who is supposed to say yes to such a proposal, should I do so? Assume the girl has no issues with this, but will I have my respect after this marriage or will I get a complex? This is an otherwise good proposal, the difference in salary is the only problem. What do you think people? Will I be happy with such a girl?
2007-09-24 03:25:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only you can answer this q.
2007-09-24 03:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say talk to your proposed bride to see if she has any issues with it. As you are not going with the traditional part on this anyway this may be an option.
Also I think this is something most people in India are recognising as a fact. The other side of the story of course s that for a well earning highly educated woman like your wife to be the pools of potential husbands is shallow there will be not too many man that can comply with the tradition. She may have said to her parents that she would rather marry somebody her intellectual equal than one that earns more but is not in her intellectual league.
Therefore if this is the case you should feel privileged that she considers you a worthy husband.
Though I am not Indian myself I have worked with people that have exactly this problem as well and I know that within the strucutres of society as it stands it can be an issue
2007-09-24 12:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any inferiority / superiority complex arises that lies purely in the minds of people. If you can learn to overcome them, then it is a small issue who earns more than the other. After all money can only buy material luxiries not peace of mind, true love and a true loving family.
2007-09-24 10:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by ndeepuachari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry dude i can't help there. from a culture of no arranged marriages but even though we pretend that which makes more money don't matter men still need that to feel like men here, with some exceptions. i think it shouldn't matter who makes more but it does.
if there is any drought that it is going to bother you and make you feel less and you can get out of the marriage then i would.
but i don't know what your options are, try and do what is best for your mentality.
2007-09-24 11:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by Steven E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her, why should her salary bother you.
If she earns more she spends more, its good for you and the family as it takes the preassure of you to take care of your family.
Hurry up and marry the girl and enjoy your wife and her money if she is willing to share it with you.
2007-09-24 10:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is only a problem for you if you care too much what others think.
2007-09-24 10:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Theresa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be a problem if U make it to be one!
2007-09-24 13:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tommy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see any problem with her making more money
maybe your just jealous
stop thinking about it
2007-09-24 11:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋