It took me awhile to realize I was preganat because one i was still getting my period and second i had a really bad stomache flu... So in feb when i didnt get my when i didnt get my period I figured that i was prgnant. And when I went to the doctor they determined my due date was November.... So my husband went ahead and planned this trip with his company he works with.... THen I get my ultra sound and they tell me Im further along then they had thought. Im due october 5th.... And my husband is suppose to leave this Friday and come back the following Monday. Im scared he wont be here and i really need him there. And he should be there. But The company is being stupid now and says that he still needs to go to this work related trip. IS there anyway I can explain this to my doctor and have im induce me.... I know being induced isnt a good option. But I just want him to be there....
2007-09-24 03:08:56 · 18 answers · asked by ash85maya 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is not good to induce you want your baby to stay in as long as possible. Your husband needs to tell his boss that he can not go due to the simple fact that you are close to your due date. Depending on where you live your husband should look into the FMLA (Family medical leave act) In MD you can take up to 3 months off w/o pay and your job can not replace you or get rid of you. Good Luck to you and best wishes to you and your family.
2007-09-24 03:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt the doctor will induce for convenience. I know you want your husband there, but the baby's health is more important. What if the actual due date (based on the baby's development) is closer to the original estimate? Then, you'd be inducing a baby who was just not ready to be born yet.
I do know some doctors who induce for convenience (theirs or the patients) but I do not believe this to be a good practice. Induction can lead to a ton of other birth interventions that would otherwise be unnecessary of you waited until the baby was ready to meet the world.
Many first-time mothers go late anyway. The chances of delivering on your due date are slim.
Even if the new due date is correct, you are still almost 2 weeks from it. Again, if the date is not correct, you could be inducing a baby up to a month early. If I were in your situation, I would wait, hope for the best, and line up another labor coach just in case. How far away is this work trip? Labor tends to take a while. Could he be on call to fly home in case you do go into labor? Would he lose his job if he came home?
2007-09-24 03:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kellie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really anything. I'm 37 weeks and have been using evening primrose oil capsules for over a week, walking and trying sex. If it's your first, you'll probably have to wait until your due date to be induced. My first was a week late and my midwife said she would induce me at 39 weeks, my daughter was 9lbs and any bigger than she was and I'll probably need a c-section. Almost needed one w/her. The baby will come when it's ready, as much as you and I both hate hearing it...there aren't really any ways that will "induce" All the things you've listed are just to help your body but won't force labor. Definitely don't try castor oil...that would cause a lot of pain and maybe no baby.
2016-05-17 09:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The welfare of the child is paramount and induction is only given when it is beneficial to your, or your child's welfare. The concerns of your husband's company mean zero to the doctor (as they should) and you would be very foolish to even consider asking for something so serious for soemthing so relatively ridiculous. Also, even though it is this close be prepared for missing that date by a few days plus or minus anyway. Your husband really should put his foot down with the company, but plan it like this: He should say he will go unless it looks very close on the 4th October. If it looks very clsoe he should just simply not go. Not putting doubt or worry in your mind, but are you sure your husband really wants to be there?
2007-09-24 03:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not have your baby on the due day they gave you. It could happen days before or after that date. Is your husband going to have time to get home, from where he's at, when you go into labor? Why can't someone else go in his place? You definitely need your husband there. Your baby has to be fully developed before they will induce you. I think they only induce when you're way past your due date.
2007-09-24 03:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should talk to his boss again. I can't believe a company would be this inhumane. Maybe he needs to be more persuasive. And every business partner would probably understand if his visit has to be postponed so *you* don't have to get medical help.
What kind of company is this where a business trip is more important than a woman in labour?
2007-09-24 03:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ithilien 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was induced with both of my children. I think if you explain the situation to your doctor and you doctor thinks that the baby will be fine coming a little early then there shouldnt be any problem. I had my daughter 2 weeks early and my son 3 weeks. My daughter weighed 7 lbs. and my son almost 8. could you imagine if I would have carried them full term. Just tell your doctor your husband is leaving on a bus. trip and you want him to be there. He will most likely do an ultrasound to make sure the baby is big and healthy enough and then he will make his decision. I think it will work out fine. But I would call TODAY and tell them.
2007-09-24 03:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by who knows 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Most dr's wont induce for non-medical reasons. Its best to let the baby stay in as long as you can because its safer.
My husband was deploying and I begged my dr to induce me at 38wks and she would not do it, so ended up missing the birth. It sucks but there really is nothing you can do if its not safe for the baby.
2007-09-24 03:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the doctor. Some doctors don't like to induce unless it is medically necessary.... Luckily mine did. my hubby was on deployment, and my mom had to drive 8 hours to get to my house. So he let me get an elective induction, so I could have someone there... Good Luck, I hope it all works out either way....
2007-09-24 03:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather a safer natural labor with my husband away, than a risky induced labor with him there....
Is he fighting hard enough to get out of this trip?
Maybe you are worrying for nothing, you might not even pop til he gets back.
2007-09-24 03:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by A derka der 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋