Women..Why do you stay with husbands who cheat & cheat & cheat???

Answer 1

most of the times its beacuse they think its love....when they just kidding themselves.

Answer 2

My husband planned on cheating with his ex through e-mail, I found the e-mail and who knows if he would have followed through with it or will in the future. From my perspective, I think it is difficult to really know what to do. I never thought he would write the things he did to her, and he swears up and down that he made a mistake and he's sorry, but who knows. I don't know if it will ever be the same, and if we will really even be able to recover. I think women might give their husbands a second try because there might be a chance that they really did just make a mistake and are regretful. However, if it happens again, such as if my husband did this again, there would be no doubt in my mind that our marriage would be over. You know men (and women) can give many reasons and excuses as to why they cheated, or planned to cheat, but it comes down to the reality that we all have a conscious and common sense. We have the choice to go forward with this sort of behavior or not. That is the trouble I am having with my situation, my husband had the choice and he did what he did by his own free will. Its a tough thing to go through.

Answer 3

Well, first off, have the decency to talk about it with her. It would be wrong to just split and never talk it over with her first. Cheating is never right, but at least give her the chance to defend herself. After hearing her out, you will have a better understanding of what to do. This is a tricky situation because it involves a child. The kid needs a father, whether that man is you or the real dad is irrelevent. He still needs a strong father figure to help him through life. If it did not involve a baby, I'd leave in a heartbeat. But because this situation WILL affect the child, you have to work something out with the mother.

Answer 4

my wife told me 12 years ago, that if i wanted a BJ, go find one she will never give me a BJ. I came to live with her decision, so I don't force the issue. I love my wife and would never purposely hurt her in anyway.
If your husband is cheating, screw him. leave him. I don't know how old he is, maybe the other women flirt and make him feel special, like you use to. It is not an excuse, but I came close a few times, but I'm glad I made the right choice. I decided to reverse, and I only try to keep our marriage on the unexpected. Do things diff in the bed room.
he has gotten away with it so many times it's like no big thing now,and he will continue. move on with your life, there are desent men out there who will give you 100% of there soul.

Answer 5

Because we think we deserve it. Of course, deep down, we know better, but somewhere through our marriage, our spouse started breaking us down. The first time he cheats, we are hurt beyond measure, but we forgive. We think he is sorry. Then, he decided that that was sort of easy, and does it again. On and on the story goes....and somewhere in there, we have begun to believe that we cannot satisfy our husband, and so we deserve to be cheated on. Oh, we just love him so much, and if only he would realize how much we love him. And we are afraid to leave, because we have put a lot in to this marriage, and have PRAYED for him to love us right. And now we believe that we are ugly, and no one else would want us anyway, and we are scared to death to start over again. How would we ever trust anyone again?
How do I know all this? I went through it all with my first husband. Finally, I got the courage up and left. He remarried, and I was jealous, thinking, "how could that PIG find love again, and yet, I was the faithful, good one, and no one loves ME!" I waited 20 years, but God sent me a good man this time, while my ex has been married three times, and he has hepetitis from drug usage, and he is poor and lonely now with NO ONE to love. If you are with a cheater, get the strength to leave! Cheaters never know how to LOVE, until they understand that love is being able to TRUST. You cannot trust him with your precious heart. You are a beaten down woman. Time to leave. Time to find yourself again, and THEN, when you do, God will send someone who can love you the same way YOU can love.

Answer 6

Some people have the kind of personality that allows them to move past it. I do not. I'm not forgiving, unfortunately, and I could not accept a cheater.
Sometimes I think women stay because it's harder to leave. That would mean they would have to start over, move out, be alone etc. I think it would be harder for me to stay, though. I fell in love with my husband easily, and I could fall out of love just as easily.

Answer 7

I stayed with a boyfriend that was cheating and it was because i loved him and wasn't ready to be on my own. I guess I felt i needed him. Now I am happily married to another man.

Answer 8

i agree with foxy_diva!
i never would, and if my husband cheated on me his butt would be gone! no one should have to put up with that! if your not happy in a relationship, then just leave. there is no excuse to cheat.
they definitly think they are in love, but are definitly fooling themselves.
people are also affraid to be alone, but personally id rather be alone for the rest of my life than deal with someone who take advantage of me and treats me like that and thinks its ok to cheat.

Answer 9

Sometimes you really have no choice. HE has control of the finances, you are not working. SHE can look for a job but how do you make that happen quickly with enough money to be able to leave him. HE makes you feel like no one else cares and so her self esteem is very low.

Answer 10

No. I understand forgiving the first time someone cheats, but after that NO WAY!
You need to stand up for yourself. You also need to get tested for STD's.

Answer 11

i agree. i believe in second chances, everyone is human and makes mistakes, but i do not belive in third chances. cheating once is a mistake. anything after that is a habit.