Okay I have been with my fiance for a year and half now and we are excepting a baby in Jan. He also has a son from a prior relationship (not Marriage) which I do not have a problem with at all. The problem that I am having is his ex. Like I said we have been together for a year and a half, and I have never met his son's mom. I am not allowed to answer the phone when she calls, I am not allowed to go with him to pick or drop him off, and If I ask anything about her he just changes the subject and tells me that she is crazy and he does not want me around that!!! Now my fiances ex's father passed away and my fiance's parents are kissing her *** like it there job and it kind upsets me!! Has anyone ever been in a situation like this?? Please Help me!!! What should I do??
Oh and I forgot to add that she will make comments about me to him and there son that I am just the knock up whore and things to the nature!!! HELP!!!!
2007-09-24 02:47:43 · 6 answers · asked by epd4859 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just ignore her ignorant behind . she is telling her son things like this because she is jealous . But I do think things are suspicious when he wont let you answer the phone when she calls or wont let you go over there to pick up/drop off the son or it could be that he is afraid she will strike you or something and hurt you and the baby . I dont know but you need to talk to him about this and tell him that you need to know . good luck .
2007-09-24 02:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This npt bing allowed to answer the phone when she calls sounds suspicious to me, especially if he gets a bit defensive when you bring up the subject. Do his parents like her? Maybe she isn't all that bad but your partner doesn't want you two to get along.. I just sense a missing piece to the story here, on his part. Do you get on with your partner's folks? Maybe you could ask them if she is that crazy after all, and are you sure she made those comments, or did you hear it from your partner only? Something isn't right I don't think..
Sorry for not being much help, good luck.
2007-09-24 10:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went throught that when I met my husband. We have been togetter as gf and bf for 14 years and married in 2004. I had to deal with the same. Except they were married, and divorced in 1990. I couldn't answer my phone, he had to pick it up. She use to hang up on me. Only he could go to the birthday parties. If he took his daughter, I couldn't be with him. He said ," because she said so". I put up with that for about a year. After , that I set down the law. I could see what she was doing to him, CONTROLING HIM , even though they were divorce. Plus he was writing out money orders for child support and if he did something she didn't like she stopped him from seeing his daughter. She always held the daughter over his head. So, what got my ***, was he paying child support money to her and she is refusing him to see her. That soon , stopped I tried and tried to let him see what she was doing too him. It took him a couple of years but he finally had seen the light! Some women try to control the sitution so they have total control of their ex's lives and girlfriends. He had told me so many times that she said I was no good for him. That I was going too cheat on him. Well , my husband told me she was cheating on him and controling all the money he was making. He had bank books that he didn't know where she had hidden them on him. Until a year ago , we went to court, she had finally admitted to them. What I am saying is YOU NEED TO TAKE CONTROL OF THE SITUTION AND SPEAK UP. HE MIGHT NOT BE TO HAPPY, BUT IF YOU LOVES YOU AND THE BABY. HE WILL ALSO TAKE CONTROL. HE WILL KNOW WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. By you speaking also, he knows you care and don't need to be talked about by her. He will stand up for you. That's what mine did!!! Well , good luck, hope everything works out.
2007-09-24 10:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by seawife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a son by a woman who he did not marry.
He has you knocked up and you are not married....
See a pattern here?
If he allows her to say those things about you - how much does he love you?
Dump his azz and sue him for child support and make him pay through the courts so he gets to go to jail every time he misses a payment.
He is a loser. Make better choices next time.
2007-09-24 09:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what thats horse -- -- -- -- that hes putting you through and its not fair you should be able to meet her if you want to especially if he expects you to take care of h is son as well as yours you need to meet her and its a good thing that you want to because in my situation i dont care to meet her and dont want to talk to her
you really should sit him down and tell him that if he excpects you to care for both children he needs to let you and his ex talk to eachother in the end its the children th at matter not what she says about you no offence intended
and he needs to be less controlling of you you can talk to who you wish
take care ok ? when you talk to h im try not to yell ok and accuse
and just to remind you she was the knock up hoe before
2007-09-24 10:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his a*s hes nothing but trouble
2007-09-24 10:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Meyghan McAllister♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋