Feeling Unhappy In New Relationship?

Question

I am currently living with my boyfriend of four months. Prior to this, i had been seeing him for aprox a year, while he was living with someone else.
I feel I have problem relating to trust with him now, and he is ashamed of his past, and has told me he would never do this on me, that i am the one for him. He has told me that he intends on asking me to marry him very soon. I love him very much and he is good with my son, but i feel I am sometimes possessive about who he is talking to or texting on his phone, and find i pick arguments with him over silly things, and then regret it shortly after and upset myself. Im totally confused when i comes down to realising why I am being like this? Can anyone shed any light on this for me?

Answer 1

Hi I'm only an email away.

Answer 2

i am the same,
its such a horrible feeling,
i think its because you have such a good thing going you dont want something to ruin it for you.
do you have a hectic life????
are you boared/tired???
life not what you thought it would be????
want more from your relationship??
these can all be things that can make you this way.
maybe the way you got together is playing on your mind???
by the way were women were all possesive from time to time esspecially wen weve had children as we feel less confident about ourselves.
you maybe bottleing up how you fell and thats why you pick arguements.
well hope this has helped.
and goodluck

Answer 3

If you plan on marrying this guy, you need to loose the jealousy part. If he gives you some kind of indication that he is messing around, then come out and ask him point blank. If you don't have trust and honesty in a relationship, then you have nothing.

Answer 4

Sounds like you're trying to make sure you have a self fulfilling professy. I think you have guilt issues over how your relationship started. Only you can change how you're acting. Either you do or forget marrying this guy.
Not every relationship starts the right way. Many start as yours did, it's up to you whether it finishes the right way.

Answer 5

It's called a state of fear. You're afraid sub-consciencely that he will do the same thing to you with another woman. I think you need to learn how to trust any guy b4 you get involved in a relationship with him.

No trust = bad relationship
E-mail me if you need more help w/ this

Answer 6

You are feeling conflicted since you obviously care for him, but have this lingering trust issue. You need to explain this to him and to be able to tell him when you are feeling this way. Even if the incidents, when taken by themselves, may not be rational, they are indicative of your need to build trust after your earlier clandestine situation. Talk about it when it happens.

Answer 7

think there is distrust. on your part. but i don't blame you one little bit. haft er all he is ashamed of his past. sound like it was very colorful life indeed. i think you should tell your boy friend all your problems. and your possessiveness. and try and thrash some thing out. i wish you well good luck.

Answer 8

You should feel worried. You were the one who helped him cheat on the other girl.

Deep down you know the truth - it's just a matter of time before he does the same thing to you.

You know what? You deserve it.

Answer 9

I haven't a clue why a young girl would see someone while they were involved wtih another woman.

he's a cheater and you snuck around to see him. NO WONDER you don't trust him.... based on his past behaviors, he's not trustworthy at all.

if you aren't content, it might be time to move on. sometimes we have to do painful things in order to improve ourselves and our situation.

Answer 10

honestly..
i tihkn your letting him get the best of your jealousy.
his past is bothering you.
i know your supposed to look past that but hey your human. everyone had their faults.
jsut sit and think to yourself.
how can i fix this? bc if you love him you should try to look past it.
okay?
gooodluccck.