and after how long should you get worried when he doesnt pop the question?i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for most of those 3 years.Yes we've had our ups and downs but we always solve pur problems and to tell you the truth eveytime we have a fight(not physical) after we make up our love for each other grows even more.I'm 23yrs and just finished college and he is 30 years and is a doctor.I've got no doubt that he is the one i went to spent the rest of my life with.I've had more than my share of fun and i've dated quite a few guys before i met him so i know i'm ready for the marriage.
2007-09-24 02:41:31 · 18 answers · asked by Lolly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are all ready living with him, it's probably not a priority for him. Drop some hints about how much you'd like to be engaged. I lived with my fiance' for about six years and have been engaged for about 2 1/2 of those years. Our wedding date is Oct. 13. None of that would have happened if I hadn't "pushed" it just a bit. He felt we were all ready married and didn't see the importance of officiating, but now is excited and happy that we are going to finally do it. Hang in there!!!
2007-09-24 02:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't discussed marriage before, he may not even be considering it as an option. Most guys prefer "living with" a woman rather than getting married, if they can get away with it. In my opinion, he should have already proposed. Most of the time when a guy proposes way too soon (under a year), he's a controlling jerk who is an abuser. So, it's good you're over the "I have to propose fast before I hit her" time limit. But anything over 2 years living together is too long. Has he mentioned marriage at all? If he hasn't, then chances are he's not after marriage with you. Guys don't like their gals to sit them down and say, "We need to talk." So, whatever you say, don't say that! And they also get scared when you say, "Honey, I've been thinking..." You'll have to be creative to get him to talk about your relationship. Relationships are a female thing. Every guy I know would love to be in the position your man is in now. The sites below offer information about marriage and what you can do to bring it up. Most guys run when a woman brings it up, so be careful. Good luck.
2016-05-17 09:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Wait If He Really Loves U He Will Pop The Big Question
2007-09-24 02:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Meyghan McAllister♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set rule. I've known people to pop the question three months after they started dating, and I know people who have been together for more than 5 and have no intention of getting married.
Here's my question: Have you two talked abotu marraige at all? do you know his feelings regarding the institution, and does he know yours?
Don't bring up that you want to get engaged soon during talks about it, if the above questions haven't been addressed, but after a few talks, (spaced out over several months), you can try dropping hints.
2007-09-24 02:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Darkwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you two are in love but maybe theres a legitimate reason why he hasnt asked you. you said you just finished school right, well maybe he didnt want to put any more pressure on you or maybe hes trying to wait for the perfect moment. whatever the case may be im sure hes going to ask you. dont rush into thigns. you're 23 you're still young no matter how much in love you are. things like that take time. just be happy with the way things are, dont put any pressure on him and as i said before, dont rush it the time will come when its suppose to and when its right
2007-09-24 02:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Aces baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no exact time of dating when he should ask you to marry him. It will happen when the time is right. You should talk to him find out how he feels and let him know how you feel.
I am in the same situation you are i have been with my man for 3 years and basically lived with him for that ling to. I talked to him about it and told him how i felt and i got him to talk about it to.
He night think that you are not ready or he might be scared. You have to talk to him because there is no specific time when a guy should ask you to marry him.
Good Luck!
2007-09-24 02:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by inlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least 2 years. This will give the two of you to really know each other, and how committed you are to each other.. Marriage shiold not be based on lovey dovey emotions, which are temporary.
2007-09-24 02:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your ready, but he's not. your young, dont worry so much, have fun with him. People see this big line between bf gf and marraige, its a law binding contract, thats all, sure it probably has some sentimental value, but you love eachother, and thats all that matters.Be happy that your with such a great guy, and be patient, he'll come round.
2007-09-24 02:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when should you be asked to marry him, when you both know you love each other, and one part of love, is when you do not argue and fight, when life is total harmony and you want to spend all the time possible with each other, until that happens you are not inlove and you are not ready to be in a respectful marriage, make sure you have the right man first,
2007-09-24 02:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by please ask m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say start passing along hints......if you haven't already. Most guys don't really start thinking about marriage until the girl starts bringing it up.....it's that whole "commitment" thing we have problems with......at least a little anyway. If he loves you he will take the plunge!
2007-09-24 02:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋