Today is our 1st wedding anniversary & I sent my husband a message on myspace kinda like a card, telling him how much I loved him and how happy he made me & how we have been through alot and always make it through & all that stuff.. well I asked him if he liked it and he said yeah and kinda made a funny face and when I asked him if he had even read it he was like "I skimmed through it" I was really hurt.. he was like it said something about love & our anniversary, so i dont even think he read but two words of it! I am just very hurt.. and I was the one who said happy anniversary first and he didnt even say it back.. were going out to dinner tonight but he doesnt even seem to care about our anniversary.. hes really hurting my feelings what is his problem ???
2007-09-24 02:19:45 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I told him that it hurt my feelings and he was like why do u have to get all winey.. that pissed me off but he hugged me acting like he didnt see why I was mad
2007-09-24 02:31:41 · update #1
So SHOULD I even bother to buy him anything for our anniversary? since he prob. wont get me anything?
2007-09-24 02:45:44 · update #2
I think you should just let this go or you'll make this a day worth forgetting! You don't want to hold onto a grudge over who said what first on a night that is suppose to be very very special.
Lets face it, guys are horrible with romance. Yes you would have loved it if he were more into your anniversary, but guys generally aren't. That doesn't make him a bad husband or that he doesn't care, it just makes him like every other man out there.
Now you can do two things, drop it for now, and tomorrow (after your dinner), let him know that it kind of hurt that he wasn't into your day (which hasn't even finished, so you really have no idea what he has planned) or you can make a complete horrible mess of you life and just be mad at each other on your first anniversary. I think you should go with the first option.
This will be the least of your worries as you start to age together, start figuring out what is really important enough to you to fight about and when to just let it go. Because if you continue your relationship being hurt over things like who said what first, you're never going to be truly happy.
Good luck and happy anniversary!
2007-09-24 02:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let's look at this from a guy's point of view!
First of all, anniversarys are not that important to guys! I would bet that the wedding itself was not that important to him! The bride is the star of the day, and the groom gets to show up, stand there, wear something uncomfortable, and smile like he is enjoying it!
He most likely is happy married to you. There have been some serious adjustments in his life in the past year. He has more responsiblities, and less free time! You sent him a message on myspace, and because he did not drop everything he was doing to read it, and then did not react the way you wanted him to, you are hurt!
He loves you. He loved you last year, he loved you yesterday! Nothing has changed today, except your expectations!!Today he is supposed to get all excited about the fact that you have been married one year? To him it is just a day! He has to go to work, and he is going to take you out to dinner tonight!
Quit being so childish!! He has not done a thing wrong! If you make a big deal about it, next year he will most likely give you the reaction you want (but it will be totally fake). He is going to consider your anniversary as not a celebration of your marriage, but just another "husband chore".
2007-09-24 02:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by fire4511 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not have taken it seriously since it was on MySpace. A first anniversary is personal, MySpace is not. If you want a mushy reaction from hm, give him something special in person, not what equates to an email. It's okay for everyday stuff, but not special enough for an aiinversary
2007-09-24 02:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He cant see what a wonderful woman he has right in front of him, I mean what can a girl do?!? At you dinner tonight bring up the subject and let him know that he hurt you. Tell him you love him and that you need to hear him say it...And mean it! Talk to him about how he makes you feel when he is like that, and say to him if this relationship is going to work, you need his surport. If he still doesn't get the idea then im afraid to say that this is just isnt worth it. But don't get heartbroken, Your worth more then that! xxx
2007-09-24 02:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Just _ A _ Girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some men just don't get it when it comes to special events .Mine don't either.It's not that he doesn't care it's he isn't going to make a big deal out of it.Mine remembers sometimes just be thankfull for those sometimes.Don't be to hurt.
2007-09-24 02:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by lollypop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is just guys in general they just like to celebrate in private and he probly didnt read it all the way cause maybe one of his guy friends was in the room
2007-09-24 02:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by melissa h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋